As sad as you feel, your son is his own person. He has his own life and his own family which they are planning to grow.
I feel like you may have constantly pressured him to return to home over the past 15yrs because “it's the norm” whereas he wants to branch out, expand on himself. He doesn't want to be in his home town and your constant pressure is only pushing him further away, literally and metaphorically.
He's an independent adult who knows what he wants. You can either choose to support him or drive him away.
You need to ask for what you want or you certainly won’t get it.
Playing these “gotcha” games and testing him isn’t going to net you good results.
Just tell him that your bday is coming up on X day and you’d like Y activity or gift.
Clearly, bdays and holidays are not a big deal for him. They are for you. So tell him and give him a chance to meet your expectations. Else you really can’t be upset when you don’t get what you want.
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We haven’t talked since the breakup, I know she doesn’t have a boyfriend and we never hangout…
As sad as you feel, your son is his own person. He has his own life and his own family which they are planning to grow.
I feel like you may have constantly pressured him to return to home over the past 15yrs because “it's the norm” whereas he wants to branch out, expand on himself. He doesn't want to be in his home town and your constant pressure is only pushing him further away, literally and metaphorically.
He's an independent adult who knows what he wants. You can either choose to support him or drive him away.
You need to ask for what you want or you certainly won’t get it.
Playing these “gotcha” games and testing him isn’t going to net you good results.
Just tell him that your bday is coming up on X day and you’d like Y activity or gift.
Clearly, bdays and holidays are not a big deal for him. They are for you. So tell him and give him a chance to meet your expectations. Else you really can’t be upset when you don’t get what you want.