I had someone do this to me. I went to a club with friends and someone called my boyfriend saying I was making out with all these men. I was sober and dancing with a girl friend. When a guy tried to dance provocatively with me I stopped it… it was a weird night. My boyfriend spoke to me and it was a horrible conversation, but it was a conversation. We were together for 3 more years. He did a lot wrong, but talking to me was not one of them. Strangers sometimes try to break up relationships and lie. This person’s anxiety is wrecking them and they do not believe their partner cheated. So they need to communicate.
If you’re tired of him talking about it, tell him he’s jeopardizing the relationship by bringing it up. You’ve already talked to him about it and there’s nothing else to say. If he brings it up again, I’d leave.
Don’t let him gaslight you like this. Consider that if he does this sort of thing with a lap dance, what other behaviour he’ll try to excuse in the future.
I had someone do this to me. I went to a club with friends and someone called my boyfriend saying I was making out with all these men. I was sober and dancing with a girl friend. When a guy tried to dance provocatively with me I stopped it… it was a weird night. My boyfriend spoke to me and it was a horrible conversation, but it was a conversation. We were together for 3 more years. He did a lot wrong, but talking to me was not one of them. Strangers sometimes try to break up relationships and lie. This person’s anxiety is wrecking them and they do not believe their partner cheated. So they need to communicate.
If you’re tired of him talking about it, tell him he’s jeopardizing the relationship by bringing it up. You’ve already talked to him about it and there’s nothing else to say. If he brings it up again, I’d leave.
Don’t let him gaslight you like this. Consider that if he does this sort of thing with a lap dance, what other behaviour he’ll try to excuse in the future.