Long tale short
Working there meant for 3 months
We' re scheduled together 45% of the time but hardly interact
Other friend (" Wednesday", f22) messaged me saying that " Amber" is ' in love with me'
- That' s not possible. She will not know me
- Even when she has " a sense pertaining to who I am" : I can count on both hands the number of times we' ve voiced to each other
- This is a highschool crush that will blow over in a couple of months
- I have enough experience and sense to know that this is a bad idea (see below)
- She may be thirty, but she' s nevertheless a teenager and unpredictable.
Earlier this weekend she showed up at work on her day off and went into the breakroom, I put a feeling something was off – asked if the lady was okay, she stated yeah and just played on her behalf phone
I asked co-workers what was up and evidently she does this every once in awhile
One coworker (f20, Bunnies) went to the breakroom for 20 minutes in the middle of a project (jeez, thanks. ) Other colleague (f23, Jumpkick) went to the breakroom to get the very first person as they were required for a task, disappeared for seven minutes, came back up and asked me how I felt about my coworkers ("…. Good. " )
I' m not dumb, I knew Amber had a smash on me way before Wednesday messaged me.
I' m the new guy in the female dominated field, who most of everyone is in their early to mid 20s, the gossip grapevine has extremely deep roots
So far there are 3 people who are not so subtly pushing me towards the girl
She waited all day in the breakroom (she arrived just after my break) and waited past closing after everyone left (there was some money balancing issues I had in order to sort out)
She' t like a Puppy trying to stick to me and I have to provide her a stern No! for her to understand
And because I have to be stern – I' ll be an ass and social pariah.
Preparing every single time, if I make it clear, I' m " insensitive" if I try to be " sensitive" absolutely nothing happens and things obtain worst, until I have to holiday resort to making it crystal clear and then I am an ass.
Even if I were to date the girl, here is what I foresee:
- I would not have to get giving my 100%, not fair to her
- Anything at all I say or perform while we date is going to be gossiped about to everyone at work
- It' s a highschool crush, it will fade, I' m left on the ass
- We date, I actually step on a mine, the particular grapevine will be abuzz, I' m the bad guy at your workplace
We all don' t date: I' m an insensitive rear end.
It' s literally the no-win situation.
I' m going to HR the moment I get into work
This is dumb.
I hated highschool then and I hate it now as well. TL: DR – Coworkers pushing myself towards someone who has seen me personally for less than a week total because " She is in love with me" and I want nothing regarding Highschool drama in the workplace.
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