I think he should see an attorney to find out what his rights are. I would be worried that the EX wife may try to deny him visits with the boy. Especially since this came up because she already wanted him to skip his weekend.
I feel really bad that your husband has been betrayed in such a way, and I hope that he is able to continue being a wonderful parent to both his children.
Just tell the C U Next Tuesday that you don't want to look at her. Say she's ugly or has some gross flaw that she must not see but it sickens you to be in her presence.
Everytime you come near her mouth silently that feature about her. Maybe she gets overly self conscious and develops and eating disorder or something.
Give yourself a little bit of time away from him like overnight because once you realize you didn’t do anything bad he was sort of not very responsive. You’ll let yourself off the hook and realized he was the issue not really you.
She doesn't trust you because when you say “I will do X,” she knows she cannot depend on you to actually do it.
Because what you really mean is, “I will do X if nothing else comes up that I decide to do instead.”
So she can never count on you.
What she's struggling with is the realization that love is not a good enough reason to keep you in her life. She's understanding that she and her child need someone dependable and invested in the family . . . and that person is not you.
She also is dealing with knowing if she ever wants a partner who is there for her and her children, she has to stop indulging herself by being physically intimate with you. No guy will want to date her while she's still semi-involved with you.
What she really wants is for you to grow up and become a man who knows how to be a decent partner to her and a dependable father to your child. You say in your post
I know I need to be consistent and to actually do the things I have said and it's not a quick at all but willing to do anything to fix this.
Why do you say you are willing to do anything to fix this, and you very clearly understand what you need to do, but choose not to do it? What's keeping you from doing the right thing?
It sounds like you just don't want to commit to being a responsible adult. You are 28 and still want to hold onto your no-strings, no-expectations, no-goals lifestyle.
You want her to be happy with whatever crumbs you throw at her. You want her to accept you as you are: A guy who only wants the fun and easy part of being with her.
Can you really not see how she knows it's a serious mistake to be with someone like you?
Final edit gives me closure, I glad you're leaving that bitch whp actively wanted to cheat, and who knows maybe she already did without you knowing.
I think he should see an attorney to find out what his rights are. I would be worried that the EX wife may try to deny him visits with the boy. Especially since this came up because she already wanted him to skip his weekend.
I feel really bad that your husband has been betrayed in such a way, and I hope that he is able to continue being a wonderful parent to both his children.
Just tell the C U Next Tuesday that you don't want to look at her. Say she's ugly or has some gross flaw that she must not see but it sickens you to be in her presence.
Everytime you come near her mouth silently that feature about her. Maybe she gets overly self conscious and develops and eating disorder or something.
Your wife's fantasies quite possibly include a father figure.
Give yourself a little bit of time away from him like overnight because once you realize you didn’t do anything bad he was sort of not very responsive. You’ll let yourself off the hook and realized he was the issue not really you.
honestly ?
give your two weeks notice.
you know why.
She doesn't trust you because when you say “I will do X,” she knows she cannot depend on you to actually do it.
Because what you really mean is, “I will do X if nothing else comes up that I decide to do instead.”
So she can never count on you.
What she's struggling with is the realization that love is not a good enough reason to keep you in her life. She's understanding that she and her child need someone dependable and invested in the family . . . and that person is not you.
She also is dealing with knowing if she ever wants a partner who is there for her and her children, she has to stop indulging herself by being physically intimate with you. No guy will want to date her while she's still semi-involved with you.
What she really wants is for you to grow up and become a man who knows how to be a decent partner to her and a dependable father to your child. You say in your post
I know I need to be consistent and to actually do the things I have said and it's not a quick at all but willing to do anything to fix this.
Why do you say you are willing to do anything to fix this, and you very clearly understand what you need to do, but choose not to do it? What's keeping you from doing the right thing?
It sounds like you just don't want to commit to being a responsible adult. You are 28 and still want to hold onto your no-strings, no-expectations, no-goals lifestyle.
You want her to be happy with whatever crumbs you throw at her. You want her to accept you as you are: A guy who only wants the fun and easy part of being with her.
Can you really not see how she knows it's a serious mistake to be with someone like you?
I didn’t even read the whole post but I read the title and my answer is no