how do I (F28) tell my husband (M33) that I want a divorce?

how do I (F28) tell my husband (M33) that I want a separation and divorce?

I' m miserable. So so miserable. We was once really happy, and like each other. Since our child was born, everything has changed. She' s almost a year aged, and he' s however to do anything to help with the girl. He sleeps in a various room to me (and the newborn, she' s still in my room) so he' s never done a night time feed, or rocked her back to sleep, or anything at all like that. He doesn' to sort her meals, the girl bottles, he doesn' to do laundry or thoroughly clean the house, he sits on his ass constantly and just performs on his phone. No matter how a lot I say I need assist with every day things, he constantly says he' ll change but doesn' t. We argue every single day. He' ersus self employed, works constantly but still brings home hardly anything. Exactly what he does earn, this individual takes for petrol within the car, vaping and tattoo designs. This has been on going for years, he has a job for a bit then gets fired and doesn' t do anything for a while until he goes to the next matter. For 6 years I' ve single handedly been financially responsible for every single thing. All the bills, the rent, and so on is all down to me. We' re in a lot of financial debt, and I pay my own along with his too. And certainly now we have a child, I' m also doing all the parenting. I do 99% of her care, and he maybe gives her a bottle once every so often. His patience can be awful, and his attitude is definitely worse. He constantly thinks I' m cheating, If I' m on the phone he wants to understand exactly who I' m texting and what we' re speaking about. It isn' t because he' s interested it' s because he thinks it' s someone else. I want to divorce, and be free I' meters already doing everything by yourself so it makes no difference. I feel like I' meters trapped though, he has no where else to go if I ask him to move out, he can' t pay for to get a place of his own. The house we live in is possessed by my father, ànd every single bill etc is in the name so I' mirielle not leaving. Doesn' t matter what we say he or she thinks we' re joyful. He can' t take those hint I' m bad and wish he' d go away. Despite it all I would like him to be okay continuing to move forward, and I' m concerned about hurting his feelings stating I' m done. I' m worried about custody, great family (who don' to like me anyway) and the impact of that too. I' mirielle worried the opinions of everyone else with this. And I don' t even know how to state I' m done. I' ve been trying for 6 months to tell him but he says he' ll change and things will be different. I don' t know how to do it but I know I need to.

I' m sorry it is a lot of rambling, just think that I' m at busting point with life in general. Mental health isn' to great, and I need to escape. I don' t wish to keep trying to make this work when I don' t feel anything towards him yet resentment