" Henry" and I have been jointly for about 10 months. All of us rarely have disagreements, and when they do happen they' re usually about diverging preferences in movies, food, etc .
One thing is he' s a little weird about cash. He' s a talented software engineer who has already been making big money since this individual graduated college, but he was a first-gen student with an immigrant background and at all times had to work really nude. So as a result he is still very thrifty and anal about money.
I on the other hand had a normal middle course upbringing with two open public schoolteacher parents. However , I graduated with a humanities degree and for several years I was producing no more than ~$60k. Over the past couple of years I managed to pivot directly into tech and just recently got an $85k/year developer position which I am very excited and happy about normally.
Anyway, Wednesday Henry had a big get-together at his house for his birthday celebration (which is tomorrow). There must have been 25-30 people there and I knew very few of these. At one point we were all in his living room and wanted to do a round-robin launch thing. We were supposed to state our name, what we do, and one interesting fact about ourselves.
when it came to my turn, I introduced myself, mentioning that I was Henry' s BF and that I was about to start a new work. I had had a couple of drinks and kind of overshared that I was excited because it was a big pay bump. Certainly I didn' t say the amount. But all of a sudden Holly interjects with: " Don' t get ahead of yourself honey, it' s still only 85k! Hahahaha. "
I was completely taken aback and stunned and just handed it onto the next individual. I couldn' t think he would call out my salary in front of a huge group of mostly strangers, most of who were software people who possibly make double what I' ll be making. I didn' t bring it up and also have no idea if I should. A couple of friends told me I need to rest and not even think of getting it up until at least right after his birthday, if at all. But what he said seriously offended, hurt, and embarrassed me and I want him to know that. Thoughts?
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All you proved is that you're the man who's a danger to her. If this is how you treat and think about women, no wonder you think every stranger is out to get her.
Tell him to not come. I’ve been to so many kids parties and never saw alcohol served nor would I expect there to be any