Guy I’ve (36F) been dating (40M) for two months asked me to “save the date” to hang out on Valentine’s Day 2 weeks ago. We have been seeing each other 2-3 times per week and a few weeks ago committed to exclusivity (I initiated). No intimacy yet but he’s definitely hinted at it frequently.
He didn’t make any real plans for the big V day and finally around noon today suggested we hang out at my place and order in delivery food. “Not a good night to go out because of the rain. Let’s go out this weekend instead maybe.”
We on-line in a major city with plenty of restaurants at all different price points. It is unseasonably warm here…rain was a light drizzle, and not a real excuse at all.
I got so frustrated and didn’t want to make things worse so just stepped back from the situation and texted him “hey drowning in work. Since we don’t really have plans, want to just go out this weekend?”
Trying to also hint that I’m frustrated that he didn’t even try to make plans. But maybe my expectations are too high? Looking for thoughts on how I should interpret this situation and next steps here! TIA!
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It's not a matter of getting out of this loop or trying to get the other woman 'back'. That time is past. It's time to be honest with both of them and what happens, happens. Then everyone can start anew, and fingers crossed, you mature, learn, and grow from this.
(As an aside – you are not responsible for the mental well-being of your girlfriend. If you believe she is in danger, alert the appropriate authorities.)