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Date: February 24, 2023
If you cheat, and someone is the messenger about it.. It's not the messenger that is 'destroying lives'.
Saying so is immature because it shows the lack of ability to take responsibility for your own actions.
To be cheated on and not being told is being robbed of consent to choosing the relationship.
Doesn't matter
Here's a bit of science. The prefrontal cortex is still developing, and finishes roughly around 25. Thus, the quarter life crisis. It's as if everything snaps into place, and you have the desire to know yourself without the influence of parents etc. You literally start to become your own person. The less freedom you have during the first quarter, the more intense the need for discovery. If you have freedom to discover who you are while being raised( within reason ), you tend to have a less rude awakening. I'm sorry this is happening, but take comfort in how she wants to know what she needs her life to look like. Can you imagine someone playing a role, just to make others' happy? It would lead to resentment and relationship chaos later on, impacting the family dynamics that you both built.
Girls night = Cheating on you every time
So you bullied the annoying kid at 8. You don’t recognize why you contributed to this because you were a bully too.
Sigh. You all need a wake up call. I’d suggest the book “the explosive child” but you’re going to have to make big changes as a family.
Did he apologize for making you feel humiliated? If not, I think you already have a big problem.
I would sit down with him outside the bedroom and express to him how his behavior and the lack of intimacy is affecting you. It's valid that he's tired and depressed, but your mental health is also important and he needs to understand that a relationship can't revolve around his needs. He either needs to get some help for his mental health so he can be a present partner, or he needs to be single for now while he focuses on his other responsibilities. Treating you like a used sock is not acceptable.
I think all of them more or less
I’ve heard before that men should spend 10% of their annual salary on an engagement ring before. This is probably some marketing campaign but it is what I’ve heard. Honestly it sounds like she hasn’t really though this through at all since her reasoning is ‘that’s how it works.’ What are you financial goals? How much will she be contributing to a wedding? Do you even align on your financial values? Does she spend a lot of money on you? How much money does she make?
Would she be okay with covering the difference of the ring if you have a certain budget? If you are to be married you should be able to have these conversations. If you can’t even discuss a budget for a ring, there are bigger problems.
I think I could just focused on what that meant for him. The stigmas around it and how dificult was for him to tell me. What we could do from now on. But instead I Just wanted to see his exams and I was very invasive.
Yes you're being paranoid
Golden advice here OP
The next day was awkward as well before he FINALLY called me and told me — as I assumed the entire time — that it was about me. Apparently I sounded “too happy” on the phone when I called to ask if I could come over. I have no idea why someone who loves me would get upset that I sounded happy.
Let that sink in a little bit more. I fear he may have tipped his hand too much.
He doesn't want you to be happy or act happy around him, out of envy and spitefulness I'd assume. “If I ain't happy, ain't nobody happy.”
He sees your cheerfulness and good mood to be a threat to him feeling safe and secure. That triggeers hostility, silent treatment/sulking, defensiveness, and blaming/shaming tactics from him. He also doesn't want to take ownership for his behavior and mood, and refuses to communicate his anger and resentment.
Sounds like you don't even live together yet…..this is super toxic, super immature behavior. This is passive-aggressive abuse.
Note that abuse is a repeated pattern of behavior that seeks to manipulate, humiliate, dominate and/or intimidate somone else against their will. It needs not be overt hostility, and abusers aren't like that most of the time, but they keep doing it, never genuinely apologize and always make it into your fault somehow. Then they act like it's all wine and roses after
You really should seriously reconsider this relationship.
Remember that his behavior is never going to get better than it is now.
You're not married. Your don't have any kids or major financial bindings. You don't online together, don't usually sleep in the same bed.
He has everything to lose right now. You could dump him at any time or even just completely ghost him, with no major consequences.
What is “following porn”?
Ummm exactly what I was thinking. And the leg shaking? Sorry girl but I think you were exactly right about what happened and he’s lying. And then he blew it up to make you feel stupid so you would apologize.
ON THE OTHER HAND, you did mention your boyfriend is uncomfortable in another comment (sigh).
I'd recommend telling your boyfriend to approach his boss in the office, and ask her not to send those type of emojis to him – in a polite way. Let him know in his culture that means “romantic love”, and he loves working with her [even if it isn't true, of course!], but he doesn't have any romantic feelings for her.
She should back off from it.
Oh do you never talk to them for work?
There isn't much you can do. If she insists on going, then she will go.
I suggest that you support a trip of perhaps 30 days. Since you have a good support network, that should be doable. But if she doesn't agree to come back at the end of that time, then I think that means she's abandoning the family, and you should file for full custody of your daughter. I suggest making those terms clear before she goes. She should also be aware that all financial support ends at the 30 day mark as well. If you have a joint bank account, take half of the money out of it at that point, and put it into an account at a different bank, in your name only. Then stop putting any money in the joint account after that.
Maybe your wife is exhausted, and is having a midlife crisis, and needs a few weeks to be an individual rather than a mommy. That's understandable, I think. But any more than that, and she is crossing a bridge of no return.
You are not in the wrong at all and were far more understanding than most people would be, in my opinion, far too understanding. I wouldn't feel one speck of sympathy for her. She is manipulating you. I bet she started crying because she knew she had been caught.
You should be extremely worried, regardless of her excuses or how faithful she has previously been. I know people who were married for 20 plus years and completely faithful to each other, and then one cheats and leaves the other one. I would not believe she is really going to cut off contact with him. She's probably just going to hide it better. She has been lying to you the whole time for a reason. She knows she has bad intentions and has this whole time. What makes you think she's going to be truthful now after not being truthful this whole time? Also, it doesn't matter if he's married either, I'm sure his wife would be just as upset as you. If that guy leaves his wife, your marriage is over. I would leave her immediately. She is one hundred percent emotionally cheating on you, plus she's the one that has pursued him, and her friend is doing the same thing to his wife. She is probably in love with him, but he won't take the next step. If they haven't done anything psychically yet, I guarantee it's not because they don't want to.
Distraction and praying
He pays 75 you pay 25
I don’t have sexual trauma and this behavior is disgusting! It’s not you or your trauma!! No one is entitled to your body!!