So my boyfriend a year ago his job where he was making close to a 7 figure salary and on top of that he was investigated by the IRS and is now in debt because of all the taxes he owes back to them.
Because of all this he has developed antisocial tendencies and it’s been hell for our relationship. Many years before we met he was a s*x addict and I helped him get over that addiction in the beginning of our relationship by taking him to therapy etc. He messed up a lot in the begging of our relationship mostly by texting other women, I of course got mad at him, but I gave him another chance and after that there’s been no issues until recently…….
After losing his job, the tax problems and all the financial issues. He started developing antisocial tendencies again and it’s driving me crazy. He thinks he’s good at hiding it, but I can see straight through all the BS excuses. He’s on Instagram sexually harassing much younger girls, he jerks off 2-3 a day, probably keeps in contact with “women” from his past, he sends d*ck pics to strangers and being a literal creep. I’m also suspecting that he’s on apps like tinder where he’s looking for someone to sext with. At one point when I was visiting family this winter, he kept sending sexual messages for 2 days straight and I thought I was going to lose it. Besides these issues we have a normal sex life.
I’m so exhausted and I don’t know what to do anymore. We had 4 amazing years together without any issues and the last year he’s slowly going back to the person he used to be. We have cameras in our home and whenever at day time when he’s home alone I always catch him jerking off on the sofa and taking pictures of his private thingy.
What do I do? I haven’t confronted him with any of this mostly because I know it gets worse if I confront him(it turns him on), and one of the others reasons why I haven’t is because I know he’s not meeting up with other women, it’s all on-line I’m however scared that it’ll lead to him seeing other women face to face. I’m seriously so exhausted by dealing with this, I love him so much and he obviously got huge mental issues but I can’t even look him in the eyes anymore.
We’ve been together for almost 6 years and we on-line together.
Update: Yes I know I am probably a victim of a narcissist, and it’s really naked. I’m always trying to find a way to justify his actions. I’ve in the past tried to reach out to family and friends, but they don’t believe me, because they don’t see this side of him. It’s so naked and I’ve tried breaking up several of times. Whenever I break up, he starts guilt tripping me and hovering me. I feel so lonely without him and I don’t even understand why. I know exactly who he is, and I know I’m so damaged mentally from all of this.
Yes I also wrote a post about him cheating when I was miscarrying. He did that. It haunts me on a daily basis and I found myself hysterically crying at the waiting room at my dentist today.
I never used him for money nor was I ever with him for money. I have my own job and income. I didn’t get anything expect a nice apartment to online in, a vacation 1-2 times a year and flowers on my birthday, while his ex girlfriends would get Chanel bags and other gifts thrown after them, I never got anything materialistic expect flowers and I didn’t want anything expensive, it kinda hurts me tho that these other women got nice gifts but even never gave me anything, nor did he ever attempt to give me anything. Always when I had to use his credit card for something, I always paid back. Sorry I’m not a gold digger and it was never about the money. I have to admit that I found his job interesting, but the money always made me feel uncomfortable.
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