You can do a better service to yourself not treating yourself like an option. If it works for you, keep going. If it doesn't, move on. Simple as that. Sounds like it's the latter and you're discontent with how it's going so just do the responsible thing this time.
You have repeatedly mentioned that he is famous, but haven’t really said anything about why you want to know him aside from him being single and cute. If you want to try DMs sure, but I admit it sounds like you’re just interested because of who he is professionally.
Is it even legal in Canada to borrow money for a deposit? It’s not in the UK. Here if you aren’t funding the entire deposit yourself you usually have to get confirmation that the ‘loan’ is a gift. If it’s the same in Canada you’d have to lie to the mortgage co or your future BIL is giving you a $150k gift!
First of all, his profession as a therapist has actually made him a bad communicator. That's a mind-boggling level of irony right there.
Everybody that stays with anybody does it despite certain things. It's completely unrealistic to think that any two people are going to like everything about each other.
But that wasn't really my point. I basically saying that he must fundamentally like you if he has chosen to stay with you. Has he ever said that you two should break up?
This. I'm the person who stays up late on days off and sleeps in, and so I usually apologize to my husband for depriving him of morning activities with me. And he, in turn, laughs it off because we never really have any concrete plans on weekend mornings anyway.
I can't imagine a world where I'd be mad at him because I stayed up late. “I can't believe you let me stay up late. We didn't go to the farmer's market again because of you!” sounds absurd in my head. But then again, at 32, I've learned to take responsibility for my own actions.
The only thing I disagree with is your understanding of “public”. If you intend to share information with 6 close people, telling them all in one group isn't any more “public” than telling each one individually. He only way it could be called public is if he talked to them in a public space where they could be overheard, which I didn't see any indication that this was the case. If they ate the brunch at the cafeteria, then yes, public. If they ate it in their room, then no, private.
she actually loves my friend!!! i genuinely think she doesn’t think i’m pretty enough to be her granddaughter . thank you for your advice, im gonna talk to my mom about it too and see what she thinks!!
Yeah. I’m just hoping it’s something they can sort out between the two
Definitely not worth the trouble
You can do a better service to yourself not treating yourself like an option. If it works for you, keep going. If it doesn't, move on. Simple as that. Sounds like it's the latter and you're discontent with how it's going so just do the responsible thing this time.
But he doesnt have to when I do for him?
You have repeatedly mentioned that he is famous, but haven’t really said anything about why you want to know him aside from him being single and cute. If you want to try DMs sure, but I admit it sounds like you’re just interested because of who he is professionally.
Is it even legal in Canada to borrow money for a deposit? It’s not in the UK. Here if you aren’t funding the entire deposit yourself you usually have to get confirmation that the ‘loan’ is a gift. If it’s the same in Canada you’d have to lie to the mortgage co or your future BIL is giving you a $150k gift!
It really is
First of all, his profession as a therapist has actually made him a bad communicator. That's a mind-boggling level of irony right there.
Everybody that stays with anybody does it despite certain things. It's completely unrealistic to think that any two people are going to like everything about each other.
But that wasn't really my point. I basically saying that he must fundamentally like you if he has chosen to stay with you. Has he ever said that you two should break up?
No problem. Rule of thumb: about half the length of the relationship or 6 months (whichever is shorter) seems to be the sweet spot for most people.
He's a creep. He's a weirdo.
This. I'm the person who stays up late on days off and sleeps in, and so I usually apologize to my husband for depriving him of morning activities with me. And he, in turn, laughs it off because we never really have any concrete plans on weekend mornings anyway.
I can't imagine a world where I'd be mad at him because I stayed up late. “I can't believe you let me stay up late. We didn't go to the farmer's market again because of you!” sounds absurd in my head. But then again, at 32, I've learned to take responsibility for my own actions.
The only thing I disagree with is your understanding of “public”. If you intend to share information with 6 close people, telling them all in one group isn't any more “public” than telling each one individually. He only way it could be called public is if he talked to them in a public space where they could be overheard, which I didn't see any indication that this was the case. If they ate the brunch at the cafeteria, then yes, public. If they ate it in their room, then no, private.
she actually loves my friend!!! i genuinely think she doesn’t think i’m pretty enough to be her granddaughter . thank you for your advice, im gonna talk to my mom about it too and see what she thinks!!
They were 15 years old. Teenagers are stupid and do stupid things.