I don't think I self-sabotage a lot, but then again I also tend to be a go-with-the-flow kind of person and not really make a lot of decisions for myself, which I guess could maybe a self-sabotage but on the opposite end of the spectrum so I don't know. You could be onto something. And to answer your question it's somewhat cultural. Plus we both grew up in “no dating until you're 18” households anyway, but his dad was especially old-fashioned and controlling so he wouldn't have been allowed to bring a girl home without being engaged to her.
Your emotional abuse has transitioned to physical abuse with your daughter at risk of being hurt.
You should have told her of the childcare alteration. Not proper to suddenly take a child without informing the other parent; however, thar isn't grounds for domestic violence.
You are being the best father you can be. She needs therapy and possibly meds to be the best mother she can be. Your child will suffer if her mother doesn't get help. You might need to consider divorce and fighting for custody if this behavior continues.
The question is: why are you still interested in talking to him after such display of control, jealousy and insecurity? Why are you ignoring red flags?
He'll talk to you again, unfortunately for you. But this is not a relationship anyone should want to be in. I felt suffocated just reading your post!
I didn't see anything about kids either. OP can get away clean.
I don't think I self-sabotage a lot, but then again I also tend to be a go-with-the-flow kind of person and not really make a lot of decisions for myself, which I guess could maybe a self-sabotage but on the opposite end of the spectrum so I don't know. You could be onto something. And to answer your question it's somewhat cultural. Plus we both grew up in “no dating until you're 18” households anyway, but his dad was especially old-fashioned and controlling so he wouldn't have been allowed to bring a girl home without being engaged to her.
Your emotional abuse has transitioned to physical abuse with your daughter at risk of being hurt.
You should have told her of the childcare alteration. Not proper to suddenly take a child without informing the other parent; however, thar isn't grounds for domestic violence.
You are being the best father you can be. She needs therapy and possibly meds to be the best mother she can be. Your child will suffer if her mother doesn't get help. You might need to consider divorce and fighting for custody if this behavior continues.
You don't even have to buy an Air Horn.
There's an app for that.
There are people who could eventually think of/ orchestrating their life ending and the ex witnessing it, for being guilt ridden ever after.
But these would be real nude core manipulators.
The question is: why are you still interested in talking to him after such display of control, jealousy and insecurity? Why are you ignoring red flags?
He'll talk to you again, unfortunately for you. But this is not a relationship anyone should want to be in. I felt suffocated just reading your post!