My partner and I have been together for 7 years. A happy relationship. We agreed before children to have two. I think siblings are an important part of growing up. My sister is my best friend. Our daughter is now 20 months and I’m ready for the next but she was a difficult baby, colic and stuff. My partner describes it as him being traumatised by the last 18 months. He absolutely hated it. It’s better now but 18 months of hell and a bad pregnancy and scary birth where he thought I might die. He doesn’t have a good relationship with his own brother. His reasons for not wanting another are mostly down to just how unenjoyable the first 18 months were and he’s scared I won’t make it through child birth and be left with two kids he couldn’t cope with. He’s a wonderful dad, and getting better as our daughter interacts more.
I obviously don’t want to have a child with someone who doesn’t 100% want one but I feel very sad at not giving our daughter a sibling. He’s more important to me than another child, I would never break up.
What do I do?
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