The title says it pretty much, now before you come at me with pitchforks in hand, ready to hang me for being such an inconsiderate boyfriend, please hear me out:
– 6 years in a relationship, the last 4 have been in a dead bedroom (lack of sex and intimacy).
– Since we moved together I've been the breadwinner, paying all the rent or 70% of it, plus living expenses.
– Been on couples counseling for years with two different therapists (which i paid), have told her in a concise and clear way that having the economic responsibility for both of us makes me sad and resentful. She works halftime the other half she tries to make it as a fashion content creator.
well that pretty much sums it up, last two months I just stopped being the usual cheery caring bf and just felt sad and demotivated. We have been fighting a lot since then. I have been very resentful so much that I am beginning to say hurtful things and my perspective of her is being skewed because f my ire. So i am planning to break up on Friday and today she says "I'm gonna quit" and much like the sinking of the titanic, my heart plummeted to the depths of my stomach. I felt a deep sense of NOOOPE not again. I can't I won't be your economic support once more after literal years of telling her to look for another job. Now I feel like absolute shit because ok I wanna break up with her but she's going through this work crisis. What should I do? wait? tell her before she quits? help her get a job? There's way more details on this but thats basically it.
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