Yall wanted an update so here it is. It's been about 2 months and his absence has now been indefinitely extended. I want to make it clear that I have no issue with his need to be away, I understand the importance of it but dont want to give any detail to preserve anonymity. He broke NC after 3 weeks saying he made the wrong choice and has been keeping in touch with me almost every day. We've had the opportunity to talk rationally about everything that happened and that was really helpful, but I made it clear that I'm not interested in a romantic relationship with this kind of dynamic. He still seems to think there is some chance for us to get back together, and though I do still have feelings for him I am struggling with the guilt of knowing I may have to be the one to stop this from going any further when he returns (our lease ends in November). This kind of distancing is a pattern for him, though this was his most dramatic execution of it, and I know its not what I want. I won't go through this again. Was he trying to get with someone else? Is he with someone else? I still don't know. My intuition says no based on what I do know about his time away. But that doesn't really change things for me. I'm moving on and focusing on my work, friends, and personal life. I guess it's not a super interesting update, but there it is.
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My partner of 2 years is traveling for work for the next month. Our relationship has taken a lot of effort lately due to long-distance, but it seemed like things were going well. Suddenly he wants a no-contact break to "see if this is right" but I'm not sure how that could possibly help and can't imagine wanting to be with someone who didn't want to talk to me for a month, not to mention having to start from the beginning of our journey to healing trust in the relationship. He's offered very little explanation and I am respecting his request for no-contact, so looking for advice on what might be going on here. Should I just assume this is over?
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Hanging there. If you feel you need some therapy get some, and being in the wrong relationship at a time like this is not helpful. I hope you have lots of good family and friends around you. And here's to an update in a couple of months or when you feel like it to say that things are looking better for you. I think we're all rooting for you.