I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost two years and my only complaint about the relationship has always been how addicted to porn he is (he’s been addicted since the age of 10). Literally everything else in our relationship is amazing. I can’t find a single reason to be upset about it other than the porn use. We’re still able to have great sex, but the porn bothers me bc I can tell it affects his mood, etc…
We recently got into a huge argument about it. I was letting him use my laptop since his finally gave out from being almost 8 years old. I was disgusted when I found him using my laptop for porn and told him something has to change for real this time. Since then, he’s been honest about when he has the urge to watch it and trying really hot to make a change. I wanted to find out the drive from it and asked him more and basically whenever he’s stressed he will watch porn. Whenever he wakes up he will watch it as well because it’s become apart of his routine for so long.
Warning: Mentions of SA coming up
I didn’t think those reasons could be the only case, so I kept trying to figure out how a 10 year old could possibly all of a sudden be hypersexual and watch porn for the next decade. Then, when I was scrolling on my main Reddit this morning, I saw a sub in AskReddit where someone asked men that have been SA’d their experience. I saw a handful of men that had been SA’d as young as 5 which turned them hypersexual and not only felt sick to my stomach, but also was curious if something happened to my bf at 10 years old.
When he woke up, I talked to him and asked if there was anything that he hadn’t told me since he wants to do everything he can to stop being so addicted. Sure enough, he opened up right away. He told me when he was 10, he got his parents to let him go to a 14 y/o girl’s house to hang out. She got him to eat her out and do other sexual things. He told me at the time it didn’t seem bad since his friends cheered him on after the whole thing. But he told me now that he thought about it, it made him feel uncomfortable and embarrassed. Since then, he picked up a very heavy porn addiction. Mainly older women porn. And he’s watched it ever since.
I’m really upset and pissed that this disgusting bitch did this to him. I know her social media and so badly want to call her out or do something, but Im not going to, I’m just upset that she’s a huge cause, if not the whole reason my bf is addicted. I just need advice on how I can help my boyfriend. He’s really trying and wants to stop. He just doesn’t know how.
TL;DR: My bf has been addicted to porn ever since he was 10 after being SA’d by a teenage girl. It made him hypersexual and he can’t go a day without watching it. I don’t know how I can help him aside from not letting him borrow my laptop since his is broken.
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