Hi, so I’m currently pregnant. The day after I told the father, he said “i guess since we’re having a baby, now would be the time to tell you this”. He proceeds to tell me he is on probation for sexual assault, and also has a court date coming up for a seperate sexual assault. He said charges were dropped for the first one, which doesn’t make sense to me if he is on probation for it. He also told me that he lied about his work program and it is actually classes he has to take as conditions, and meets with a probation officer every month. I should mention, I broke things off as soon as I found this out.
However he keeps threatening lawyers and court. He basically replied that I need therapy because I am throwing his court case in his face. He said I am rude and disgusting for being upset about it and that this is why he didn’t want to tell me. However he is the one who hid it from me, and threw it in my face once I was pregnant. He’s now saying he is the victim in the situation because it’s not a big deal because the girls lied about it and conspired against him years after it happened.
I feel like I wasn’t given the chance to make an informed decision about this person, as they hid this from me until I am pregnant. He said quote for quote “I gave your chance to say sorry and you fucked it up . Good job” and “No, because i could have never told you if i wanted, but i still did . “
I am just very confused on how he is considering himself the victim in this situation and saying I should apologize and go to therapy. Stuck at a crossroads on what to do, as I feel like I never truly knew this person and everything about them was a lie. Truly feeling sick to my stomach over this situation, and do not want to bring a child into this.
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