My boyfriend has issues with mothers day and lost both of his mother figures, his bio mom abandoned him and his aunt that raised him passed away a few years ago.
I went to go visit my own mom for mothers day and let him know it would happen ahead of time, asked if he wanted to come with, etc but he doesnt like flying and didnt want to request any days off work.
I didnt have a lot of time to talk to him since cooking for mothers day is my duty and I was fixing my moms garage door and laying some tile for her. He knew that and I sent him photos etc.
I came back to our apartment a few hours early after doing a flight change and he hadn’t been home or cleaned since I’d been gone. I started tidying and found two womens rings that are definitely not mine.
I also found blonde hair in the shower stuck to the wall. I’m a black woman… so again not me. When he got home he seemed surprised and I just tossed the rings on the ground in front of him and didnt say anything.
He acted stupid at first and then started crying and blamed it on me leaving him alone when I know what happened to his family. Our lease doesn’t end for at least another 3 months.
He says nothing physical happened and had the woman text me. She said she made a move on him and she saw him getting hot but that he started crying and asked her to leave..
I’m not sure what to do. One hand, I’m like fuck this I cant even go help my mom for a few days without him acting out? Other hand what he went through with his moms was horrible and I can see it bringing up issues when alone.
Neither of us know anyone else in the area so we cant even go stay somewhere else. I’m not even mad I’m just annoyed.
What steps should I take to talk to him about this? I’m not staying with him, but I have no place to go for at least 3 more months and if I try to break up with him now he’s going to make a big deal out of it and throw off my studies for the next 3 months which I cant risk.
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