I 32M am straight but I have a lot of friends in the gay community, mostly because I live! in San Francisco. My friend Jessica and her wife had a housewarming party and I joined. I didn’t know a lot of people but I chatted with a woman named “Michelle”. We clicked instantly and spent all night talking. People even acknowledge us and said how cute we looked together. We agreed to meet for lunch a few days later and afterwards we went to a local park and shared a kiss. Next date was a museum. And the next one was to a light show. I was honestly enjoying the slow pace, usually it’s meet, sex, and goodbye. By our 5th date I asked her did she want to be my girlfriend; she told me that she would love to date me but she wanted to make sure that I knew she was trans. I was taken aback but I wasn’t angry. I honestly had no idea. I told her that while I found her attractive and interesting I was no longer interested in a dating relationship, especially because it would lead to sex. But I said we could and should continue to hang out. She seemed to be ok with it. We even went to a jazz festival the next day. The vibes were different but I still had a good time. A week went by and she didn’t reply to my text about seeing a movie that we planned to go to. She told me that she was no longer interested in a friendship and blocked me( I know I was blocked because we communicated using Instagram). I was a bit confused and texted my friend Jessica who said that I was transphobic and that it was best if we separated myself from the group. When I tried explaining myself Jessica blocked me, I’ve know her for 15 years. I also noticed that most of my queer friends blocked me as well. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to get my friends back.
Edit: wow! I went to sleep and came back to so much positivity. I had a few rude DMs but nonetheless everyone has been nice. Thank you for the advice. I think I will shy away from this group. I have a good set of friends that I play tennis with, maybe i should focus my attention there
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