My (28m) ex girlfriend (26f) is furious that I lied to her about my real income and benefits during our relationship. Did I do the right thing?

English is not my first language and I apologise for any grammar mistake. I (28m) am legally blind with some remaining vision left. From what I can best describe my vision is looking through clouds. i make six figures from rental properties, investment and disability benefits. I also have a connection with a premium airline that allow me to havve significant discount on any flight and accommodation. Anyways, I met my ex girlffriend (26f), let's call her Jen, through a mutual friend and I found her to be very sweet and caring. Our friendship grew closer and we starter dating. She knew I was legally blind and I asked her if she was sure as I might be too reliant on her. She took her time and said yes. Due to my past relationships where I was being taken advantage of, I decided not to disclose my real income and flight benefits. I only told her my income was around $50k and that i own one rental property. Our relationship was great and i made sure not to be reliant on her but she insisted on helping me whenever I struggled with navigating around places and ordering food. To reward her for being a great partner, I bought her luxury gifts and overseas trips together. She was very happy which also made me happy. However, after six months of dating, she suddenly told me she realised she wanted to have an independent partner and did not want to be seen as someone who is dating a blind person so she broke up with me. I was heartbroken but I understood. Fast forward to four months later, I invited four close friends of mine on a trip to Japan as a way to move on and spend quality time with friends. All flights and accommodation were paid by me. The trip happened last week and we had a good time. My friends were very accommodating to me and grateful for my generosity. Jen found out about the trip from IG story posted by one of my close friends. She asked my friend about it and they told her that I paid for the whole trip and that's where she found out that I have flight benefits and I make more than I originally told her. She called me to confront me about it saying if I told her the truth she would have stayed with me. I explained to her that i have been taken advantage of in the past and that I did not want to be treated the same again. She was angry and said she is not that kind of person and that I will never find a partner ever then hung up. My friends said she is clearly a gold digger. I forgave my friend who told Jen because they thought she knew. I question myself whether or not keeping my high income and flight benefits secret was the right thing to do and if i should be honest about it in any future potential relationship. A part of me tells me she is only angry that I lied to her in the whole relationship. It is very hot to be in a relationship as a blind person and I rather spend time with quality friends.

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