My mother suddenly died 4 days ago. After my ex texted me to send her condolences, my current gf has been trying to fight about her.
Last year, I wished my ex a happy birthday, and didn’t think much of it. Turns out that sparked a massive fight which we ended up working out. I made poor choices during this time and have learned and done my best to reconcile what happened.
My ex wished me well and sent her condolences via text, and my girlfriend assured me that was ok. I blocked her number without answering.
Now while in the absolute worst state of my life, grieving, my girlfriend is fixated on fighting about this. This is actually my first experience with death, and it has been immensely hot.
She keeps saying that she’s afraid I will turn to my ex for support… which if I was afraid of that, I would be doing my very best to support her in healing, not driving us apart.
How can I both reassure her that she is the person I want supporting me, and avoid having to fight with her? Anything I try to say or do turns into an argument.
TLDR; mom died and gf will not stop fighting me about my ex
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