I don’t know if this should be posted in sex or in relationship_advice or somewhere else but im freaking out and I need help.
10 years ago yesterday is the day my husband and I became boyfriend and girlfriend and yesterday we finally said our i do’s. I’m so in love with this man words can’t explain it. We are both religious and virgins. In our relationship, we agreed to not have sex (oral, vaginal, anal, etc) masturbation was fine just no 1 one 1 sex and no porn. I have caught him 3 times watching porn and it has caused some of the biggest arguments in our relationship but we worked it out. Everything was perfect up until it was time for honeymoon action.
Yesterday I slipped on a gorgeous piece of lingerie while I was waiting for him to get out the shower. I was waiting patiently on the bed and he came out. We had never seen each other hard up until that point. Everything seemed great, from the kissing and touching and then he told me he wanted to “taste me”. I laid back gently and spread my legs for him just to see him gagging and looking disgusted. Just replaying what happened over and over makes me cry because I feel so embarrassed. I had asked him was it the way it smelled and he told me no which made sense because I had gotten in the shower before him. So I asked him what was wrong and he said that I look “ran through”. I was so confused and he basically said that my labia minora was way too long and flappy which made it look like I had multiple sexual partners. This is not the case because i am a virgin. I started to cry and he told me that there are plenty of options for us. He said we can do anal until I get my labia minora surgically cut and removed.
I started to get upset with his comments but what really got to me was when he suggested I wasn’t a virgin, that’s when I snapped. I take my religion very seriously and he knows this. I blamed him watching porn and for glorifying other women’s bodies when he promised he wouldn’t do that. And then that’s when he said I was a fraud to my religion for lying about being a virgin so that’s when I hit him back with that’s why he’s a porn addict. We were yelling at each other at that point where we got a complaint and the people at the desk called to make sure everything was ok.
He ended up getting another room and we had so much planned for this upcoming week but now everything is ruined. I’m so devastated and I can’t think straight. I don’t want to call my mom because she’d be furious at the both of us. I need help. What are your thoughts?
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