Just for context, my wife and I grew up in a religious cult, in which you have to donate a money to your firl's father and he can approve the marriage in change. We were friends and I bought her when I was 19 because her father wanted to accept an offer by another dude she hated. We were able to work and study at university thanks to the facade marriage and always intended to leave the cult after we had stable jobs which we have now. We on-line together ever since our marriage but we have different rooms, split the bills and can date who we want of course.
A couple of months ago we went to our hometown for a few days to see our familes and she kissed me a lot (we were both single) which we never did but it would have been weird if I refused too many kisses when we had to act married. After that we went to the airb&b room for the night, and we got a bit drunk and she kept making sexual jokes and we ended up having sex. We didn't even talk about it and kept acting married for the rest of the time there and then dropped it when we came back home, it was reakly weird. Then I had a girl flirt eith me like 1 month later to a mutual friend's graduation party, and she interrupted and said to a friend of her ", I want to introduce you my husband…
Also she's been very moody when I told her I was talking with a girl, and she invited her brother home exactly the day I was supposed to go on the first date. So I had to rescheduled another day and she told me those day she wanted us to go for her aunt's birthday, we never went to her birthday before. Also she looks happier since when the girl said she doesn't want to date me anymores and is trying to get physical contact eay more often like hugs or tickling me. Two days ago we were out to buy stuff forvthe house and it felt like we were an actual couple, and I can tell she felt it too and there was this weird tension. Then yesterday she was messing with my hairs and I really wanted to kiss her and can't stop thinking about it since then.
I've been talking about divorce for a while but she's making excuses and saying we'll talk sbout it kater and we never do. I'm really confused about all of this, I've never been so attracted to someone before and she's a great person. We always had a great chemistry as friends and housemates. There were also moments in the past I thought about he this way but never this intensely. I'm becoming really really attracted by her.
I always imposed myself not to do anything about it because it would be like abusing my position of power, as I literally bought her and was still paying back the loan. But then again now we're independent now and we split everything, is it ok if I wanted to date her? What should I do? If I do date her should we still get a divorce first? Or just date and see what happens? Wouldn't it be weird to start dating eith someone who is technically my wife? I'm think I'm going crazy and I need to take a decision soon, I very much doubt I will be able to not kiss her if she messes with my hairs again like that
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