You are nuts. YOU get mad at him because YOU forgot and blew him off. Yes end this relationship so he can meet somebody who isn't petty within a relationship.
I mean besides basic cooking being a normal skill for adults to have, long term you’ll likely have health benefits from cooking at home versus all the takeout.
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Damn, as a mortgage officer, I'd assume she works for a financial institution/bank and she is bad with handling her own finances? I don't know about this OP, this is something you want to think long and very hot. Don't pay off her debt, she took the loan so let her pay for it. But that being said, even if she pays off this debt, do you think she'll be more responsible with her finances once you guys are married? Personally, I will never get involved with someone who is bad with their finances bc that will take a toll in your relationship down the road.
If we go by logic of people here, my mother should of dumped my dad when he met her parents. From what i know my dad and grandfather got drunk the first time meeting and got into a fist fight then my grandfather put his head through a wall.
Are you kidding me right now? Keep judging because if the bar is set this low, my hod, just wait until you’re married and have a child, he will disappoint you on the quarter hour.
Be done, move along, you are going to end up hating yourself if you stay.
Exactly, you know how weird it is to never meet your best friends family or go to their house? Not just some bud your best friend, how many excuses and lies had to have been made to avoid that? I understand the reasoning a wealthy person would have, but damn people have feelings.
From a child of a mother who said this her whole life, LEAVE HIM. I wish my mother left my asshole dad, then maybe it wouldn't have gotten to the point it did and I would've had two separate, but happy, households instead of having PTSD.
A lot of cheaters become paranoid the person they cheated on will do it back to them. You discussing the topic of poly likely stokes that fear.
And like be real here, not only does this show a profound lack of respect for your views and feelings but it's just proves that in his eyes he doesn't see what he did as that bad or something he earnestly should regret. It was 'just' a body, etc. You hoped you worked through it, that maybe he grew a little, but it is clear he is just as selfish and self absorbed as ever.
It's a known truth that abusers usually don't escalate to obvious abuses until they feel their victim is stuck with them in a difficult-to-break power dynamic. Now that they have children together, he feels confident enough in her being tied to him forever that he can drop the mask and be his true self.
Him abusing your sister and not you is only because he couldn't lock you down very hot enough.
I would sit down with him, confess your insecurities, and hammer out a specific plan, including financials and how he can pay you back. If he's comfortable with it, you might even look into writing up an actual contract. It sounds like that might go a long way toward making you feel more secure. From what you mentioned, he doesn't sound like an ungrateful mooch, so hopefully he'll be reasonable in finding a solution and plan that puts you both at ease.
Rehoming is the only answer here to save your relationship. Rehoming your boyfriend, that is…to save your relationship with your pup that loves you and doesn't deserve to be dumped like it's garbage.
When you marry this will be your life all the time. You will never be valued and ran over and ignored. Believe me once you get married all of their attributes get far worse. If they’re nice then they’re super nice afterwards. If they’re mean they’ll be much meaner afterwards.
But what’s more troubling is your BF doesn’t care how they treat you and he won’t get better afterwards. He’ll get even worse and tell you to do as they say to avoid any arguments.
I couldn’t stay in that relationship and feel unwanted or to be dismissed by my SO who is supposed to stand up for you and protect you. He will always choose his parents over you.
At least, in the US, kissing on the lips is usually a romantic/sexual action. It’s cheating by that standard.
But even if it wasn’t – you consider it to be cheating in that relationship. She “feels awful” enough about it to tell you that it happened, so she must know that it was wrong.
Why is she so angry? Did you jizz all over her term paper in the backpack?
? maybe some jujitsu would make your parents more chill with it
Girl let him go.
Totally!
That’s called rape, homie
You are nuts. YOU get mad at him because YOU forgot and blew him off. Yes end this relationship so he can meet somebody who isn't petty within a relationship.
Wow overthinking. Trust what he tells you and what he shows you.
I mean besides basic cooking being a normal skill for adults to have, long term you’ll likely have health benefits from cooking at home versus all the takeout.
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Damn, as a mortgage officer, I'd assume she works for a financial institution/bank and she is bad with handling her own finances? I don't know about this OP, this is something you want to think long and very hot. Don't pay off her debt, she took the loan so let her pay for it. But that being said, even if she pays off this debt, do you think she'll be more responsible with her finances once you guys are married? Personally, I will never get involved with someone who is bad with their finances bc that will take a toll in your relationship down the road.
If we go by logic of people here, my mother should of dumped my dad when he met her parents. From what i know my dad and grandfather got drunk the first time meeting and got into a fist fight then my grandfather put his head through a wall.
100%! What he’s asking of her is gross and cruel.
She doesn't seem to be all in on the relationship
This is I what I would say. My guess is he thought you would change your mind.
You're dating a child.
If you want someone who has autonomous control over their decisions, date an adult.
Are you kidding me right now? Keep judging because if the bar is set this low, my hod, just wait until you’re married and have a child, he will disappoint you on the quarter hour.
Be done, move along, you are going to end up hating yourself if you stay.
Exactly, you know how weird it is to never meet your best friends family or go to their house? Not just some bud your best friend, how many excuses and lies had to have been made to avoid that? I understand the reasoning a wealthy person would have, but damn people have feelings.
From a child of a mother who said this her whole life, LEAVE HIM. I wish my mother left my asshole dad, then maybe it wouldn't have gotten to the point it did and I would've had two separate, but happy, households instead of having PTSD.
Stop being so available to him. He doesn't find you chasing him very hot.
You picked the wrong woman to have your babies with.
A lot of cheaters become paranoid the person they cheated on will do it back to them. You discussing the topic of poly likely stokes that fear.
And like be real here, not only does this show a profound lack of respect for your views and feelings but it's just proves that in his eyes he doesn't see what he did as that bad or something he earnestly should regret. It was 'just' a body, etc. You hoped you worked through it, that maybe he grew a little, but it is clear he is just as selfish and self absorbed as ever.
It's a known truth that abusers usually don't escalate to obvious abuses until they feel their victim is stuck with them in a difficult-to-break power dynamic. Now that they have children together, he feels confident enough in her being tied to him forever that he can drop the mask and be his true self.
Him abusing your sister and not you is only because he couldn't lock you down very hot enough.
But I thought you'd decided on a beach trip???
He's really acting like a child here.
I would sit down with him, confess your insecurities, and hammer out a specific plan, including financials and how he can pay you back. If he's comfortable with it, you might even look into writing up an actual contract. It sounds like that might go a long way toward making you feel more secure. From what you mentioned, he doesn't sound like an ungrateful mooch, so hopefully he'll be reasonable in finding a solution and plan that puts you both at ease.
Rehoming is the only answer here to save your relationship. Rehoming your boyfriend, that is…to save your relationship with your pup that loves you and doesn't deserve to be dumped like it's garbage.
When you marry this will be your life all the time. You will never be valued and ran over and ignored. Believe me once you get married all of their attributes get far worse. If they’re nice then they’re super nice afterwards. If they’re mean they’ll be much meaner afterwards.
But what’s more troubling is your BF doesn’t care how they treat you and he won’t get better afterwards. He’ll get even worse and tell you to do as they say to avoid any arguments.
I couldn’t stay in that relationship and feel unwanted or to be dismissed by my SO who is supposed to stand up for you and protect you. He will always choose his parents over you.
At this point i dont think she’d wait another fucking year like ??? I wouldn’t
At least, in the US, kissing on the lips is usually a romantic/sexual action. It’s cheating by that standard.
But even if it wasn’t – you consider it to be cheating in that relationship. She “feels awful” enough about it to tell you that it happened, so she must know that it was wrong.
End it.