i agree with her opinion entirely? i was asking her whether or not she thinks saying the “kill all men” phrase has a negative impact on men or not. in my opinion it does, but i am also aware that women have gone through enough suffering to justify just about anything at this point, that's all. i am not taking away from the oppression women face day to day, it was just a question? you seem upset by this. i guess you're correct though, i agree with 99.9% of her point(?)
i'm bringing it to reddit to ask for people's opinions on the situation, not to act like the hot done by one, what would i gain from that?
and i'm sorry, just to get this straight, am i not allowed to ask questions in this scenario? and even if i did have a different opinion, am i in the wrong for that?you're phrasing it like i'm purposely acting in some sort of way to cause issues between me and my girlfriend and that is actually ridiculous considering you don't know either of us.
i never questioned my girlfriend about feminism we were talking about it for about an hour before this even took place, and we frequently have discussions about these topics. i am aware of countless issues women face on a day to day basis and i actively try to be a better person for my girlfriend and the other women in my life, i'd like to think i am doing a pretty good job already but thank you 🙂
Do I make him ask her or just stand my ground and not make him ask?
The problem is with giving your mother permission to insert herself into your personal relationship under the guise of “tradition and respect”. What's next?
Is it traditional and respectful to allow your mother input into naming future children (She may insist the first boy be named for your late father…whatever you two wish.) Throw your child's birthday parties instead of you doing so? Insisting that she be the primary caregiver while you go back to work? Demanding to move in with you when she retires? You need to invite her on all your holidays/vacations?
Well now I'm blushing. 😉
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i agree with her opinion entirely? i was asking her whether or not she thinks saying the “kill all men” phrase has a negative impact on men or not. in my opinion it does, but i am also aware that women have gone through enough suffering to justify just about anything at this point, that's all. i am not taking away from the oppression women face day to day, it was just a question? you seem upset by this. i guess you're correct though, i agree with 99.9% of her point(?)
i'm bringing it to reddit to ask for people's opinions on the situation, not to act like the hot done by one, what would i gain from that?
and i'm sorry, just to get this straight, am i not allowed to ask questions in this scenario? and even if i did have a different opinion, am i in the wrong for that?you're phrasing it like i'm purposely acting in some sort of way to cause issues between me and my girlfriend and that is actually ridiculous considering you don't know either of us.
i never questioned my girlfriend about feminism we were talking about it for about an hour before this even took place, and we frequently have discussions about these topics. i am aware of countless issues women face on a day to day basis and i actively try to be a better person for my girlfriend and the other women in my life, i'd like to think i am doing a pretty good job already but thank you 🙂
Do I make him ask her or just stand my ground and not make him ask?
The problem is with giving your mother permission to insert herself into your personal relationship under the guise of “tradition and respect”. What's next?
Is it traditional and respectful to allow your mother input into naming future children (She may insist the first boy be named for your late father…whatever you two wish.) Throw your child's birthday parties instead of you doing so? Insisting that she be the primary caregiver while you go back to work? Demanding to move in with you when she retires? You need to invite her on all your holidays/vacations?
I would phrase it exactly that way, “Mom, I know you have your expectations of what would make you happy. Can you see how this would make (fiancé's name) and me feel as though we need your permission to conduct our personal relationship. As though you have equal, or worse ultimate, say-so in our personal matters. Can you see that, Mom? Because that is not something that either (fiancé's name) or I are comfortable with/willing to accept.”