I do not know what to do and I need to rant. A little backstory: I have dated this guy on and off for multiple years, but this time it was actually getting serious. However, things started to get weird again; he started ignoring me, would walk past me when he saw me, became distant and avoiding, but some times he would be very cute towards me, called me late at night just to make sure that I got home safe (mostly when I went out on the weekends), give me unexpected shows of love, etc. It was all very confusing. So one day, I was ranting to my best friend about it and she basically told me to leave him. Mind you, the three of us have been close friends for a very long time. But she started saying that he didn’t deserve me, that he was immature, that it was always the same with him, that I needed someone who would appreciate me for me. And I agreed, but I still wanted to give him a chance. So I did. Almost every day she kept asking me about it and reminding me, when she could, that he was mistreating me (which he was, no one deserves to be ignored for no reason). Finally, things ended between us after I poured my heart out to him and he promised that he would change for ME, but the next day, it got even worse and he could not even look at me. After that, I really didn’t talk to him and tried to avoid him, just as he had done to me. I was too hurt to even face him. A few weeks later, we saw each other at a party and he “apologized” and told me that he had really bad commitment issues. And that was that. I cut all kinds of contact with him after it. In that same party, however, he spent the whole time with my “best friend”, outside and alone who knows doing what. I didn’t really go up to them because I wanted to avoid the whole situation and believed that she was just hanging out with a long time friend. It has now been around four months and my “best friend” and him have started dating. How did I found out? By another mutual friend of ours when they asked me how I felt about it. Needless to say I had no idea. Now, my “friend” is poking around, asking why it feels like I’m mad at her. I have not spoken to her about it and it really is not in my plans to do so. I have slowly diminished contact between us, specially now that I’m in a holiday vacation. What do I do now? Am I overreact¡ng?
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