We've been together about a year and a half now. Last week I went out to her place in the morning to surprise her with some food. We have been fighting a bit so it was going to be a full date day. She rolled over in bed and I saw a message on her home screen saying, you're such a beautiful girl Why are you on dating sites?….
So at this point she's just woken up. Obviously I'm pretty tense and she asks me if I'm OK. I'm like I'm not really sure I just seen a message on your phone that said why are you on dating sites? You're such a beautiful girl she replies what are you talking about that's crazy I'm not on any dating sites and then like ran to the restroom.
She was in the restroom for quite a while and then finally comes out and goes yes I was on a dating site we've been fighting a lot but it's not like that I was just wanting to see what was out there. I left because I was in a pretty big panic. My ex prior to her that I was with for 10 years cheated on me constantly and it destroyed me so she knows how I feel about stuff like that.
She texts me and says I didn't cheat though. I would have never have even met up with or talked to anyone without telling you first and breaking it off. I'm sorry that I downloaded it I was just lost and hurting.
We don't have an open relationship of any kind and obviously she was talking to someone since that was over text meaning she's been giving out her number. She keeps saying things like I'm sure it's all very worse in your head. I question her a bit more on it she said he was the only one I messaged I matched with people and let my inbox fill up I only responded to him because he's friends with Danny and Erin.
She keeps telling me it's worse in my head and I'm overreacting. I'm so torn apart. I love this girl but after my ex I promised myself I'd never put myself through that again. She says she doesn't want to lose me and will do whatever it takes. She said I can look through her entire phone now. Kinda late now since she had a week to delete everything. So a few questions.
Should I even give her another chance? Is this cheating? If I go through the phone and find obviously deleted messages how should I respond? Is she trying to gaslight me?
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