I have been married to my husband since September 2022, and before that we dated for well over a year. As strange as this sounds, he’s probably the only partner that I have been in a relationship with where I really enjoy the sex. Due to the fact that my ex-boyfriends were pretty bad at sex, I never used to go out of my way to initiate with them, but now I have found myself initiating sex with my husband.
Something really strange happened yesterday evening though, we were both just relaxing on the couch and when I tried to cuddle/initiate he randomly said “can you stop being masculine and trying to f*ck me.” This totally caught me off guard, so I got off of him and asked him what the hell he was talking about. He further explained that I make him “feel weird” when I am the one who initiates sex, because that “decision” should be up to him. He’s quite conservative and more fundamentally religious than I am, so I don’t know if that’s possibly related to the reason why he has reacted this way, because honestly it’s just bizarre. In my previous relationships my ex-boyfriends would be the ones to initiate with me, and sometimes I would reject them, but now it’s completely reversed.
I’ve felt horrible ever since he said this, and now I don’t even want to be around him. It’s also made me feel somewhat insecure about myself, which has never happened before because I know that I’m attractive, but now I almost feel ashamed of myself. Nothing even similar to this has ever happened to me before, so how do I move forward from here on out?
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