So… I suppose we are here. I (29f) found out about 30 ish days before our destination wedding when my (26m) fiancé confessed he went AWOL from the military. We’ve been together for about 6 years and he supposedly transitioned out about 6 months into our relationship. Obviously this is like a nuke went off in the baby ward of the hospital. Like, how do I even cope or process? So he confessed to me that he just.. left?… and that if we file for our marriage license, he can get caught. Reddit, what do I do? Obviously I know the “leave him” comments are ready, but I want to know what a person can do before finally admitting defeat? I feel like there is one road to fix this horrible mistake, and I feel like I wouldn’t forgive myself if I didn’t try to pursue it. He obviously will have to prove to me his trust and commitment, but is there a way to save this relationship? I’m numb to my feelings because I am now scrambling to cancel everything (so far full refunds so, I guess that’s a win)
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