So me and this friend have been friends for about 7 years. We met at work and have both moved jobs since but we always stayed in touch and hung out outside of work.
We see each other about once a month and we usually plan and do something fun. We text and talk regularly to, just two typical friends really.
Every year we've known each other we've given each other gifts for birthdays and Christmas. It was her birthday this June and I was a little shocked when she sent me a text with a full list of things she wanted a few weeks before her birthday detailing where from and how much they were. In the same text she even said if it was "in my budget" that she would love an afternoon tea delivered to her house on her birthday.
It just seemed a bit much and a bit cheeky to send me a full list of things she wanted. I didn't even ask, she just sent it to me without me even asking. Usually near her birthday I might ask her is there anything that she would like or is there anything that she needs but this year before I even had the chance to ask, she had sent me this giant list.
For her birthday I did get her something off her list and a few extra nice things which she loved and appreciated.
My birthday has just passed in September and we both went to Disneyland in Paris for a short break. The trip actually fell on my birthday so it was my birthday when we was there. The trip was her idea and it was a coincidence that it fell on my birthday. It was never planned that way though and it was made clear it wasn't a birthday trip. When we was there she spent loads on merchandise and she took way more money than me to spend. Just to point that out.
When we was there, we did some shopping and we looked around a lot of the gift shops and bought some merchandise. The day before my birthday whilst we was there, she told me that because money was short for her that she was going to get me a present whilst we was in Disneyland.
This didn't bother me, and I actually thought it would be quite nice for her to buy me something as a present whilst we was there. The problem was, was that the following day when it was my birthday, we went around Disneyland and looked in a lot of the shops and she didn't mention anything about a birthday present. I also didn't feel comfortable mentioning it or bringing it up. Time went on and at the end of the day when we was back in the hotel, I realised she hadn't got me a birthday present and she's hadn't mentioned anything about it.
The following day we flew back home, and again, she mentioned absolutely nothing about my birthday or a present. My partner picked us both up from the airport and he dropped her back off at her home. It's been about two weeks since then and again, she has mentioned absolutely nothing about my birthday or present.
I tried to bring it up subtly yesterday by texting her and telling her that although we were in Disneyland on my birthday, we hadn't actually done anything specific for my birthday so maybe we should do something fun on a weekend, hoping that this would trigger and remind her. She kind of brushed off this request by saying that she was busy for the next few weekends and like I said earlier, I didn't feel comfortable mentioning the gift situation abruptly.
I feel quite hurt by this, considering that every year we have both made the effort to get each other something, even if it was small, and even if money was tight. It's also the fact that she specifically said she would get me something whilst we was in Disneyland and she didn't and never mentioned anything about it since, which makes me feel like she was probably hoping that I would forget. It also bothers me that she had the audacity to send me a giant list of things that she wanted for her birthday in June, complete with prices and shops.
I don't really know what to do about this, or how to mention it to her without being so forward. How should I approach this or should I just leave it?
Is it even worth me mentioning anything since it's been about two weeks since my birthday?
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