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Model from: us
Languages: en
Birth Date: 1999-10-09
Body Type: bodyTypeCurvy
Ethnicity: ethnicityWhite
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Eyes color: eyeColorHazel
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Date: October 7, 2022
You give no info on sisters behaviors. I’m going to assume based on suicidal that she needs professional help. I side with the hubby, it is an odd red flag to me. Yes, he’s talking about divorce.
I wouldn't wear a silly religious hat to dinner either if I wasn't from that religion.
All noted. Thank you so much 🙂
I am spirling some, but school has been doing that to me anyway, so it is mostly compounded stress. I did express to him my regret of not being there for competitions and promise to be more present once I graduate this spring, hoping that maybe some of the obsession with this girl is their shared interest. That I could fill that very soon.
We have been living together for 10 years. Due to the nature of my schooling, he is supporting me financially. He pays rent and utilities, but I do have sufficient savings to continue paying for my car insurance, school expenses, gas, and some general purchases. I am, in a way, stuck with him right now. He also said he would continue to support me through school no matter what because he made that promise.
Our lease is up 8/2023. We both know where we stand right now in our relationship and what we need from each other. If he continues to leave me unsupported or doesn't leave that girl alone I'm probably going to have to close this chapter of my life.
If you agreed to not hang out with people ypu slept with, and she kept doing it…. then she lied.
Do you find your husband attractive? I’m assuming no from this post.
After my ex left me and married another man I realize that our relationship was a toxic one. That was the third man she cheated on me with and of course I would get upset and yell. After an intense amount of therapy without her, just therapy by myself I have realized the wrong way that I would get into arguments with my ex. If you listen to the way you argue, how most people argue, you always lead in with you, you, you, you. Example, you didn't pay the bill, you didn't do stuff right, you made me mad. Instead of using the word you, in an argument, which is viewed as an attack. Calmly if he will, calmly talk to him and have him use, I feel. Use sentences like, I feel you aren't listening to me. I feel scared when you yell at me. I feel I let you down by not paying the electric bill. You take the attack away from the argument. It can only work if you both use this method. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope that if he is not cheating, that you guys can get back to a meaningful relationship. If not, I'm sorry that it's dissolved. Good luck.
This is good advice! I actually on-line far from my parents, so this is one of the few times I’m able to see them. Otherwise, I would try to limit my visit for a couple of days. I do like the idea of staying with someone else, though. In future years I may actually consider a hotel if I can do so without offending anyone.
Do you have any hobbies or friends outside the relationship? It might help if you had something to keep you busy rather than focusing exclusively on her?
This is inappropriate… no one travels like that to say hi….
So there is equality (everything is the same) and equity (giving everyone an equal opportunity in life may require different processes for different groups of people). The power in the man’s and woman’s hands is to take steps to prevent the pregnancy. After that, equity steps in. Once pregnancy, abortion or child-rearing take place, the benefits and harms of choices related to these processes disproportionately affect women. Therefore, women receive a disproportionate amount of power to manage the processes. In that way, disproportionate harm to women is mitigated.
I fully agree on holding off on something as serious as marriage, I wouldn’t even consider getting into that situation. It hasn’t been happening for very long so I certainly don’t mind waiting longer, I want to give this relationship as much of a chance as I possibly can and I know he feels the same way about me. It’s odd how he talks about how happy he is with me yet we still have this barrier though
I love telling this story.
When my middle child was about 5, I shaved my beard and she yelled at me “DADDY, WHY DID YOU DO THAT?!”
It could be that she has other places to be at Christmas. I have friends who do separate christmasses with their families despite being together years.
You are a rotten person and should not be working with vulnerable people. How disgusting your comments are. Shame on you.
Talk about a risky gamble
Ugh. Manbabies are so draining. He needs to grow up. Stop blaming yourself. He manipulates you into thinking it was your fault. It wasn't. He was so wrong in so many ways. Men like this make terrible partners.
Disclaimer, this happened awhile ago.
Dude. If you have a son…. He’s going to grow up hearing her and have SUCH emotional issues….
Why is this so far down? My first thought was he doesn't want to marry her.
He didn’t “get baby trapped”. He had unprotected sex and got a 23-year-old pregnant.
If everything that you’re sharing is true, you’re not being dramatic or using your baby as a weapon.
You don’t need to announce it. Pull away and wait for it to be questioned then just be matter of fact.
Also, I’d plan to NOT tell anyone until you and your baby are home from the hospital. If you haven’t don’t tell anyone else the baby gender – they can be surprised. (Petty option: if your sister is due after you don’t announce you had your baby until after she announces she’s in labor ? just respond to the family with “oh yeah, this happened! Meet…”)
People won’t always agree with what’s best for your mental and emotional health a especially people benefiting or getting off from intentionally harming it. Do what’s best for you, unapologetically.
I'm extremely passive aggressive with a hefty dose of sarcasm, so I'd tell her that I'd seen a photo of her dress, and that I am SUPER proud of her for deciding to wear it despite the fact that other people will be SO embarrassed for her, what with the social expectation of guests not wearing white to a wedding. I mean, it's not like anyone would think she was a bride or anything (laugh hysterically here) but honestly, it's just so BRAVE.
Then I'd very hot stare at her for just a touch too long, and walk away.
A rapist isn’t the stereotype of some stranger in a mask jumping out of a dark alley. A rapist is a man that has sex with you without your consent.
Yeah, you did something wrong. You have sloppy boundaries with your friend. You seem to put her as a priority over your actual girlfriend. You have your actual girlfriend (she's not your date – she's your girlfriend) running errands and dropping off gifts to your female friends, and then making plans with them over her when you get back in town.
And then you're having sleepovers with your female friend.
I mean really – she tricked you into thinking it was her birthday? This friend you've had for years? How did you not know her birthday already? The average woman isn't going to be dumb enough to believe your bullshit.
It doesn't matter that you have opened your life up to show you're not cheating based on what you give your girlfriend access to. You shouldn't have to do that to prove this – you should ACT the part of not cheating or being unfaithful. You're not. So she bailed.
You need to learn some boundaries.
Good I'm glad! How did he react?
I want to say this in the nicest way possible, because I genuinely think that from your description your boyfriend’s behaviour is very disrespectful and wrong, but yes, you’re trying to control his behaviour instead of being accountable to yourself and the boundary you set.
You asked him to do something (fair) and he said he would (fair). But then he didn’t. You reflected on your request, concluded that maybe what you asked him to do was extreme (I reserve judgement on this without additional context), so together as a couple you came up with a new solution that (hopefully) reflected both of your concerns. Now he is telling you that he doesn’t want to abide by this compromise, and you’re trying to force him to abide by it. You can’t force him to be better, but you can be accountable to yourself and not put up with his decisions when you disagree with them. You can request, you can suggest, but you can’t force your partner to respect you.
Now, I wholeheartedly agree with your position that continuing to maintain a close friendship with a former partner is disrespectful. But you don’t get to decide who he is friends with, only what you’re going to do about it. You asked him to limit his contact with her, which is totally fair. He said he doesn’t want to. If you chose to stay in this relationship but continue to ask/ beg/ make this ultimatum against his express refusal to abide by it, well yes that’s controlling. It’s moved beyond a request by that point. Don’t let his disrespect drag you into responding poorly!
Boundaries are lines that, if crossed, mean you take action as to your own behaviour moving forward. They’re not lines that you draw and then try to force other people to stay behind!
Not to beat a dead horse, but the way I see it, he did something that you specifically told him you considered disrespectful to you and your relationship. He did it anyway despite knowing how you felt. Instead of enforcing the boundary by leaving him, you’re trying to change his behaviour to force him to respect your boundary. That’s not how boundaries work.
Unrelated to the concept of boundaries, but more to his shitty behaviour in general, he’s showing you that you’re not his first choice. You deserve to be someone’s first choice.
Don’t let his poor behaviour and lack of respect turn you into a controlling partner! If you stay he’s going to drive you crazy with the shifting goal posts. It already seems like he’s trying to make you doubt yourself, your sanity, and your value by suggesting this reasonable boundary is crazy. It’s not. The only crazy thing would be trying to force him to be someone he’s not.
I’ll give an update now!
Girl, in the last twelve days you’ve posted 3 different stories about guys you’re mixed up with that all scream red flag. Get your house in order.
Also, speaking from the experience of someone who grew up without money but very recently inherited a very lucrative vineyard in Austria and sold my company, thus I’m forced to be around more wealthy people than ever before, anybody who’s swinging their wallet around either is A. Not nearly as wealthy as they want you to believe or B.) they’re not going to be wealthy for long. I mean Christ, guy’s got two children that he already is paying for and it sounds like he has supervised visitation with one of them, which you’ve got to be a true scumbag to your child to end up with. Everything about this dude screams red flag and ask yourself, do you really want to partner up with someone who’s only personality trait is his dick and flexing money he almost definitely doesn’t really have. The visual appearance of over abundant wealth is usually a big red flag that you’re in for financial hardship down the road and this guy sounds less mature than me at 27.
You already know you shouldn’t be with him, your lizard brains letting you know it. That’s why you posted this. You’re just nervous to actually rip the bandaid off.
Walk away, if they ain't sleeping together he sure as hell trying to
just be honest.
Say
' I don't think this is going to work you lied to my face.. I know you knew she was back in town that why I asked you… you asked her to lunch, then lied to my face, so for that reason and many others were you made me feel uncomfortable to situate her is the reason we are over… I've been through this before and I ain't going through it again, I'd rather just walk away now before I get deeper into this mess, your relationship with her is inappropriate, and the fact she acts like some jealous girlfriend around me tells me all I need to know, that either ya'll are sleeping together or are well on your way too… I don't care to hear any reasoning from you, my trust and respect for you died when you lied to my face about not know she was back. I hope in your next relationship you establish some boundaries with her so it doesn't end the same… Good luck with that'
Then just block him.. He too old to be acting this stupid over a female friend.
She’s not your girlfriend.
Ok. I feel so uneasy right now. I just feel like it was too easy..?? Idk I’m a bit scared but I’m going first thing in the morning to the police.
Let me make the point explicit: believing a racist stereotype because you don't know better is not racisim. It's an education problem. Your willingness to label someone as a horrible human being so quickly over what may simply be misinformation is truly terrifying. You're arruging a man, through what may be no fault of his own, is a moral monster. While we agree that the stereotype itself is in fact a racist stereotype, how someone came to the belief matters as much if not more than the belief itself.
These meds are cumulative, meaning that they build up in your system. So even if he skips a dose the drug is still there (and obviously alcohol doesn't mix well with these). He's probably not an alcoholic but to believe that at 21 you'll never be able to have another drink comes with all kinds of implications. For better or worse alcohol is a social stimulant and if he has anxiety he probably can't imagine being able to cope with a party/gathering without it. Point being, if the drugs are working he probably won't need to drink to feel comfortable around other people. So try to convince him to give sobriety a try for a while. If he can have fun at a few parties without drinking – because now his anxiety is under control – he may back away from thinking he needs it.
Money isn’t that big of an issue due to him currently having a decent paying job and the whole reason for him going to lineman school is in order for him to move up in the company, which would allow for even more financial flexibility. I also work a receptionist job for my university that pays pretty well and has offered to let me keep my job despite not taking Summer classes, but of course I would have to quit if I moved back home. We also have discussed how we would pay for different things and have even made out a budget that would be best for us and what we know we could pay etc.