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Room for on-line sex video chat Amy-Queen
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Date: October 10, 2022
sorry for the double comment but i keep seeing replies and having more thoughts lol – totally understandable that she wants to tell u what dream u did, but to be ANGRY at real you ? not ok. it sounds like this is her way of seeking reassurance that youd never do those things irl – idk if youve told her how this makes you feel yet but if not… i think its very important to do that. at a time later in the day where you two can have a thoughtful convo, not right after she has one of these dreams and is clearly on edge. a good start might be something like “hey, i sincerely hope you know how much i love and respect you – i would never ever do that the dream version of me did. if you need reassurance of that after waking up, i get it. but its hurtful when youre angry and accusatory. i am happy to give you confirmation and reassurance that i would never do those things, but instead of yelling at me, could we try any or all of the following? 1) you could ask me to remind you how much i cherish you and our relationship, i can snuggle you and tell you i love you and that id never cheat/hurt you 2) if you do feel left over anger from the dream and need to get it out, what if we draw a picture of dream me ((insert draw the picture a poorly done stick figure w devil horns. make it silly)) then, you can tell dream me how he made you feel and why it upset you. i will back you up 100% because dream me is clearly a real dick. ((any other ideas you have))
no matter what, i do love you and want to show you thats true, but again, i feel very hurt when you yell at me for things i didnt actually do. i know its probably scary and hurtful to you when youre having such vivid dreams about me treating you so poorly, but im not doing that in real life. maybe we need to try couples therapy together so we can try and figure out why youre having these bad dreams. i dont want you to feel insecure in this relationship or in me or my love for you, but im feeling really sad that you are so angry at me for something i havent done and that neither of us can control. if none of these options sound good to you, do you have any other ideas we could try so that our mornings are less angry and tense?”
then see if she can do whatever you guys agree on. tell her if she cant, youre going to have to start getting up and going to another room in the morning until shes feeling less angry from the dream.
have you guys discussed the dreams after the initial morning anger? does she remember yelling at you? i know when i sometimes first wake up (esp from a bad dream) im not fully there. i say things i dont remember saying, have full conversations (yes i have been to sleep drs etc, im fine!!) if she doesnt remember.. is it possible she has a sleep disorder? its highly irregular to have such vivid, realistic nightmares (bc really thats what they are – nightmares, not dreams) so frequently.
i hope she is receptive to a convo and your feelings and that she finds a way to change that behavior!! it might take a little time if you guys do go the therapy route but i think its fixable!