You need to work out (probably in therapy) why you are desiring of this person. Do you think you feel this way because they took care of you? Because they showed you compassion? What is it you feel drawn to them about? Is it because you know they are unobtainable? Are you trying to destroy your friendship in an act of self-sabotage? You’re in a vulnerable stage of healing and I’m sorry for these questions-I don’t know you. But I want you to consider the “why” beyond “she’s pretty.”
There’s a lot of pretty people in the world. Only a few are you aware you’re not supposed to be into.
But big picture you have some healing to do, still, from this breakup. You wouldn’t want to drag her into your recovery time. It wouldn’t last because you’re not ready.
It’s normal to have a crush on someone who is helping you. They even have a name for it: the Florence Nightingale effect. If it helps tell yourself it’s cliche and that you have never been so predictable. Then go about all the things people do in breakups that makes them feel better. And go find yourself a queer who deserves you and wants you as much as you want them.
DITCH. Dont wait, do it now. You will thank yourself later. This is a horrible person. And super manipulative.
Just let her go
Don't struggle to make up reasons to stay with someone
It's over
You need to work out (probably in therapy) why you are desiring of this person. Do you think you feel this way because they took care of you? Because they showed you compassion? What is it you feel drawn to them about? Is it because you know they are unobtainable? Are you trying to destroy your friendship in an act of self-sabotage? You’re in a vulnerable stage of healing and I’m sorry for these questions-I don’t know you. But I want you to consider the “why” beyond “she’s pretty.”
There’s a lot of pretty people in the world. Only a few are you aware you’re not supposed to be into.
But big picture you have some healing to do, still, from this breakup. You wouldn’t want to drag her into your recovery time. It wouldn’t last because you’re not ready.
It’s normal to have a crush on someone who is helping you. They even have a name for it: the Florence Nightingale effect. If it helps tell yourself it’s cliche and that you have never been so predictable. Then go about all the things people do in breakups that makes them feel better. And go find yourself a queer who deserves you and wants you as much as you want them.