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Date: October 15, 2022
Find a place which you can afford on your own, keep your independence and rely on no one.
I didn't mean it in a bad way, i really understand. I can only imagine how stressful that must be and that's why i want to not be like that, i compare myself sometimes with other extreme jealous and controlling people and i get relieved because it's not that extreme for me at all and i have gotten much better, just need more self worth and experience. Sorry that you had to go through all that.
I think the controlling card is what a lot of people pull of when they want to feel better about being absolutely unaware of their surroundings. Same as treating you like you are someone who are angry at them, by defending themselves using “self-blaming” they are trying to feel better about it.
It is not controlling to look for financial stability and if you were as controlling as your ex said I dont think your partner could have spent so so much without telling you first.
I do think though that you have had quite the bad luck with your partners
Walk away. The same way you can magically tell that she doesn’t view sex as special or intimate or trustworthy, I can also magically tell that you would mistreat her. Because you don’t respect her.
And that’s fine, but it means you need to walk away. She deserves someone that is honest and respectful and you deserve someone that fits your boundaries.
As a promiscuous woman, I would view a man who had to “get over” my past as someone who is weak and cowardly. If I am too much I gladly encourage men to go find less. It’s not me being mean or arrogant, it’s the truth.
No woman wants a man who doesn’t respect her. No woman wants a man who’s going to judge every part of her past like they were the ones who went through it.
You don’t get to dictate how she views sex, you don’t get to tell her her character or value.
But you do get the right to choose who is right for you. And that’s not her.
the narrative arc through the posts is strong.
Talk to her.
Tell her honestly that you aren't ready to have sex yet, but that you care about her a lot and would like to take things slow.
If she cares about you, she should be supportive and understanding.
I’m so sorry you’re dealing with us. Best of luck OP I don’t really know what to say because I can see both sides… I would just communicate and see what happens. But I can understand why this would be disgusting and gross and icky and horrible for you if he is fetishizing and turned on by your daily struggle. Ick.
This was bordering on sexual assault. Don't do sexual stuff to people that don't want it. This is basic human decency stuff
Well I'm a forever aloner anyway so I doubt anyone will end up dating me anyway so take comfort in that.
Ugh. Tell me you’re a lazy man child who refuses to help his girl out with any of the chores or bills without actually telling me you’re a lazy man child who refuses to help his girl out with any of the chores or bills.
Can you even read? I think not. I said “99% chance he’s not doing any of that”. If she had actually stated that as fact, then I would have indeed gotten his daily routine. This is just MY assumption that I am quite certain is accurate.
I totally believe that he should apologize to his coworker. If he does not see the need then that's a bigger issue.
Insofar as your concern about his possible sexual attraction to her, that's a separate issue. A good topic of discussion. You are betrothed to be married for life with this man. Always good to practice clear, honest, open, and vulnerable communication with each other.
Glad to hear you’re done with him. Pink eye is bad enough! Best of luck.
This, all this. I'm admittedly usually inappropriate and a tad crazy. My husband had a friend going they a divorce and I joked about getting him one of those guy masterbation things. But I discussed it with my husband and he said that was too far. So I obviously did not get it.
Also, I find it weird he bought gifts for a friend. As a married woman I would never buy something for my husbands friends without asking my husbands opinion on it first. He does the same, that's just weird to me.
100% he wants in your friends knickers.
Sorry but this is not about her making decisions.
This is about her actually jeopardizing OPs safety for a small attention boost.
Being trans is not easy. It makes you a target of ridicule, hatred, violence, etc.
And once the info of him being trans has spread, he won't ever know if the person he is talking to knows or not. It's exhausting.
I think it probably just freaked him out that things were moving so fast so quick.
There is a couple of options here. If you are fine with it show the medical card. I think she is in the right with being mad you smoked on her property and she was able to smell it. You could just park 5 minutes away and the walk woul dissipate all smell, maybe even get a air freshener. No problem here. The harder part is that she yelled at you like that. You are a grown adult and should have intervened right there, accepting the mistake of the consumption but standing your ground not getting yelled at like a teenager. I personally would try to have a talk about that she needs to respect you. You can proof you need it for medical purposes but if she is not ok with you smoking (away not on her property) I would try to sleep at a hotel or sth.
My dude, don't fool yourself. If an early 20 female approaches you with the intent to date you, it's because she wants a sugar daddy or she's a damaged case with daddy issues. It's not because you're just that attractive. So more likely you are the one who does the approaching and yes, it's gross. I was early 20s too, and men like you who approached me grossed me out.
I'm gonna take a guess here and say that if she has no intimacy with you whatsoever and does drugs/dresses a certain way with strangers then she's probably finding other people to do those things with. I'd love to say it's all innocent but let's be real. Even if she isn't cheating then this relationship is basically dead already. Just get it over with
It will eventually come to this. I feel like I need to organise my thoughts first, though. These responses, including yours, are helping.
We have been separated for 3 months now. Yes the big fight was on me. Led bydrinking too much that evening and blowing up at her and calling her some horrible names. The fight is over finances as I was paying half her mortgage and bills along and the house is in her name as she bought it right as we started dating. Since that time I have voiced my concern and felt unheard about me paying half and having nothing to show for it.
Who said they were dating??
To add to this poster‘s second sentence: OP if you go back to her place, or have any contact with her without witnesses in a public place, then you risk another assault charge.
This girl is vindictive and willing to lie, you were beyond extremely lucky that the cops didn’t pursue charges against you the first time.
Here take my real gold in exchange for handing out your poor persons gold
That's great to hear. The day programs are great. Especially if you really apply yourself and do the homework. Good luck with everything.
Most people can read genuine intentions. So hopefully his friends see that. It sounds like you want to be good for him but your mental health got in the way and now you're doing something about it. Good job. Hold your chin up.
What happened to cause the breakup?
Breakups are naked, try keeping yourself occupied. See friends or family more, or new hobby etc its better to fill up your time than wallowing for too long
drop him. he’ll just hurt you more the longer you let him stay in your life
He’s putting more energy and work into the relationship he has with her then the one he has with you. He maybe having sex with you but do you really want to be the side piece in your own relationship? You deserve so much more than this, especially from someone you are going to be marrying.
Don’t tie yourself for life to someone that’s putting another woman first.
Sober here. If she’s an alcoholic and she is drinking then your problems are a lot bigger than you fearing she’ll get drunk and cheat. We destroy everything in our paths when drinking because all that matters is that next drink. You do not want an active alcoholic in your life. You are signing up for misery.
Get rid of her, honestly. Cut contact now. I think the epitome of love is caregiving like this, and if she can’t see that, she never will.
I remember the first time I cleaned up after someone, they were a 30-40 yr old man who had a stroke. He couldn’t speak but looked at me with such shame and sadness. I reassured him it was our job and that it’s okay, but I couldn’t shake how unconditionally loving that act was.
I went home to my long term partner at the time and said “if I ever had a stroke, would you clean up after me?” And after a couple confused questions and silence pauses, he stared at me and said: “wouldn’t there be someone else to do that?” That’s when I knew he didn’t love me the way I thought he did. He said it would be too uncomfortable for HIM.
Nobody likes to clean up other peoples shit, piss, vomit, etc. Having been on both sides of the coin, it can be really demoralizing for the person being cleaned up, and crosses conventional bounds for the caretaker, especially as a family member. But loving someone unconditionally means wanting them to have dignity and comfort all throughout their lives, and aiding when they cannot do it themselves. You are a very loving brother for helping your sister, I’d say it’s only human nature but there are some very selfish people in the world.
I'd absolutely confront him about it. Tell him you know what he's been doing and that you're worried about him because this is extremely troubling behavior.
You just found out you cannot rely on your bf. This translates to every high and low in a relationship. So are you playing chess or checkers?
Has always been a little prude but has gotten progressively worse
Question – have you ever gone on a fishing trip the two of you planned?
I can understand but wanting to have you join guy time, it might not even be about you. They may have a girl in the group that always wants to come, they may use the time to talk about really personal things. Or they may just be sexist idiots.
However, if your bf knows you like fishing and won't even go just the two of you on your own trip then he has a problem with women doing “guy stuff” and he doesn't sound that great.
Kick this man out.
If you aren't ready for that, then at least set down some rules for yourself, starting with, there are no “wife things” that ANYONE is “required” to do.
If he wants a partner who will function like an old school wife, well then he should be an old school husband and financially support you. Oh he doesn't want to do that? Of course he doesn't, but then why would you cook and clean for him?
Please, set some boundaries:
ALL bills need to be split 50/50, if he won't pay them directly, then he needs to give you X at the beginning of each month for internet, electric, and groceries. He has to do 50% of the chores, end of story. If he won't do the dishes, then don't cook for him
You deserve better than he is treating you, not just on Valentine's Day, but every day. So start by being honest and calm with him that he needs to step up and be an equal partner, and no, you are not required to do “wife things” for any man, especially one that isn't pulling his “husband things.”
Then you probably aren't compatible
You're a 19 year-old woman so you'll only be as “alone” as you want to be (being of the gender/age that a lot of straight guys prefer). The thing about leaving a bad relationship is that you never really fully anticipate the relief you'll feel not have to walk on eggshells and fight that fight constantly. You'll be far happier. But you'll also probably be very popular once you're single so make sure you take enough time for yourself before your next relationship to figure out what went wrong with this one. “Issues almost every day” is never just one party's fault. So work through where you could have done things differently so you don't just end up in yet another unfulfilling relationship.
So this isn’t a situationship. You’re talking to a guy. So if you’re asking for anything other than to start something up, yes you’re asking for too much. What you need to do is ask him for a decision and accept that as his final answer.
Nah, every few days? My partner and I have been together for years now. Early days, we would talk about our exes because it was a part of getting to know each other. And every now and then it will come up. One he was with for like 6 or 7 years, the other maybe 2 or 3 and they stayed friends after that (they were flatmates basically til I moved in- I don't like this ex and she clearly wasn't a fan of mine because I think she felt she was losing a good thing (rent free living) because of me). Him and I met when he was around 30, so these two girls were a big part of a third of his life… literal decade. He can't talk about that time of his life without them coming up from time to time.
Sometimes that's a couple weeks or months. There was a stage where we talked about them a lot because it was somewhat relevant to us. (Sorting through baggage so to speak).
But at no point did I ever feel like he wasn't over them. In fact meeting his second ex that lived with him was immensely useful for me to see that there was zero chemistry and he had no residual feelings.
From what you say it doesn't really sound like your partner is completely over his ex. It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you, but it certainly feels like you are put in a position to feel like you have to compete with her and that's not very healthy or fair on you.
People always suggest therapy… maybe if that's an option. Or if your communication is pretty good, it might be worth talking about it. You'll need a lot of empathy there because of how hurt he sounds to be. You'll inevitably feel some strong emotions and maybe be hurt. But try and think of it as any other trauma he is going through and try and support him, while also trying to help him understand that this will need to change as he can't keep this crap going into marriage.
I thought that. But then they wouldn't have been alone, it would have been the whole group
I see your point and I agree in some way, but I don't care about dancing but accept it and support her whenever she wants to go to a dancing school or whatever. I don't feel like I'm making efforts to do so, it just goes naturally.
Yeah about guns it's more like a wide interest for weaponry, i got into history through weaponry and now as an history teacher I'm still really interested in older weapons. What's new doesn't really interest me though.
Yes we've had a talk, she really doesn't like the fact that I'm a Catholic, I'm not even that naked of a Catholic but she hates me for believing in god. We stopped talking about it because it got tiresome she called me stupid for believing in this.
I don't judge her about that but she's got quiet a temper, sometimes even a look will remind her she doesn't know what she's talking about and get mad until the conversation stops.
We have had some conversation around the subjects and her conclusion is that she can understand my position(a bit) but that she “doesn’t know what do when they comment on her post/stories or when they just try to talk to her normally” so she just responds to them.
So just keep doing that.