There are (semi)professional de-lice-ers that do this all day every day. They can work the nit comb like an assasin. Find a local one on nextdoor or Angie’s list or just Google searching. Pretty sure they can handle this in one treatment with no chemicals but if your girlfriends hair is particularly voluminous, they could always come back for a second treatment to knock it out.
Used this for my family (all long hair) and it was a one-and-done experience. Very simple and easy. Totally worth it.
You let him get away with her twice already, so of course he did not learn his lesson. It's time to either accept that he will continue to do this or you just leave.
Its good to be willing to confront problems, but its not always the best to confront people. It's an important skill to learn what situations require confrontation, and which do not. It's very good to be able to recognize when it's best to just walk away. Confrontation here might give him a chance to convince you he can change, it could give him a chance to keep you around or try to manipulate you, but no matter what it seems like this confrontation is going to be emotionally and mentally draining.
Not to mention, sometimes confrontation can lead to dangerous escalations that put us at risk of violence and retaliation. Just in general – not necessarily here, but its a real possibility and if you're immediate response is always, always to confront, you can end up in real danger by not being able to walk away without confrontation.
You might practice walking away today by using any lame excuse to leave, and then just texting him that you want to break up and blocking him after you send the text. You might not though! Its your choice!!
Have you reached out to Gabbie to ask her directly if something happened between her and your wife? There’s two sides to every story and I’d be interested to know her side too if I were you.
There’s a lot going on here. Yes, she could’ve asked you to work out with her, but it’s not her responsibility to monitor your weight.
Yes, she could’ve refused to communicate with you when you wanted more details after she said that she felt “disconnected.” She wasn’t wrong for telling the truth when you asked about what she was feeling. Would you rather have her lie?
She was wrong for gaslighting you after the fact. She can’t pretend that she didn’t say it. Her wanting to move on may be due to how much it hurt her to tell you, but she can’t discount your feelings about what she said.
If you can, find a good mental health professional to help you figure out why you’ve gone into such negative thoughts. It sounds like this is all in your head now; your mentioning that she hasn’t “done enough to make up for it,” and you questioning whether she cares at all, is worrying for your relationship. The lowering of your self confidence is another thing that can be helped with a good therapist, too. (Is it possible that you secretly resent her for telling the truth about your weight that you were trying to ignore about yourself?)
After your own therapy, consider finding a couples therapist to then help you communicate how much this affected you. It sounds like you have a relationship worth saving. I wish y’all well.
It feels like you keep trying to minimize the actual time spent gaming. Try keeping a timecard of time spent gaming. Be really honest.
I'm the game in my relationship.
Lol, I feel for this guy. This shit sounds exhausting.
There are (semi)professional de-lice-ers that do this all day every day. They can work the nit comb like an assasin. Find a local one on nextdoor or Angie’s list or just Google searching. Pretty sure they can handle this in one treatment with no chemicals but if your girlfriends hair is particularly voluminous, they could always come back for a second treatment to knock it out.
Used this for my family (all long hair) and it was a one-and-done experience. Very simple and easy. Totally worth it.
You let him get away with her twice already, so of course he did not learn his lesson. It's time to either accept that he will continue to do this or you just leave.
Dont apologize to me, you should apologize to her for accusing her of doing something shady like cheating.
Its good to be willing to confront problems, but its not always the best to confront people. It's an important skill to learn what situations require confrontation, and which do not. It's very good to be able to recognize when it's best to just walk away. Confrontation here might give him a chance to convince you he can change, it could give him a chance to keep you around or try to manipulate you, but no matter what it seems like this confrontation is going to be emotionally and mentally draining.
Not to mention, sometimes confrontation can lead to dangerous escalations that put us at risk of violence and retaliation. Just in general – not necessarily here, but its a real possibility and if you're immediate response is always, always to confront, you can end up in real danger by not being able to walk away without confrontation.
You might practice walking away today by using any lame excuse to leave, and then just texting him that you want to break up and blocking him after you send the text. You might not though! Its your choice!!
Have you reached out to Gabbie to ask her directly if something happened between her and your wife? There’s two sides to every story and I’d be interested to know her side too if I were you.
Yep.
There’s a lot going on here. Yes, she could’ve asked you to work out with her, but it’s not her responsibility to monitor your weight.
Yes, she could’ve refused to communicate with you when you wanted more details after she said that she felt “disconnected.” She wasn’t wrong for telling the truth when you asked about what she was feeling. Would you rather have her lie?
She was wrong for gaslighting you after the fact. She can’t pretend that she didn’t say it. Her wanting to move on may be due to how much it hurt her to tell you, but she can’t discount your feelings about what she said.
If you can, find a good mental health professional to help you figure out why you’ve gone into such negative thoughts. It sounds like this is all in your head now; your mentioning that she hasn’t “done enough to make up for it,” and you questioning whether she cares at all, is worrying for your relationship. The lowering of your self confidence is another thing that can be helped with a good therapist, too. (Is it possible that you secretly resent her for telling the truth about your weight that you were trying to ignore about yourself?)
After your own therapy, consider finding a couples therapist to then help you communicate how much this affected you. It sounds like you have a relationship worth saving. I wish y’all well.
No but it will be better for him psychologically if he is the one to call it.
What can I do about it?
You need to move on