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If it’s any consolation, I feel the same towards my boyfriend and his ex. His parents specifically feel very close to her as they were together on and off for 10 years. They invite her over (not when either of us are around at least), stay updated on her life and socials, all that jazz. It’s something I know I can’t let my insecurities get to as it’s reasonable for them to like her and stay connected. On the inside, I wish she could’ve just been dropped lol. His parents are super nice and also care for me despite that. It’s harder for me I believe bc I know if the situation was reversed, my parents would never put me or my boyfriend in an uncomfortable situation like that. That’s the only word I have to describe it, incredibly uncomfortable. I just remind myself that it’s out of my hands and if my bf wanted to be with her, he would. Stay strong!
Therapy.
The drunk tank doesn't count, come on now. At certainly does fucking suck though, 3 times for my self…….
Ditch the * itch. He clearly is hiding stuff for reason.
OP, it's not social media that is ruining your relationship.
Your bf is doing a pretty good job of that all by himself.
Changing your status to “Single” may be the best way to handle this.
Controlling guys like your bf never get any better and often just get much, much worse.
Right let’s just skip over here being physically abusive and refusing to do anything. This is Reddit women are never wrong lol
I'm a guy doing the exact same thing with a girl back home. I have no idea what to do next, I'm in my final year in college I'm crazy busy and I never text her, I'm broke so I can't take her on dates, we online in other cities and can go a month at a time between seeing each other sometimes. I like her but I'm not crazy about her, I can't give her what she deserves rn so I'm not committing to anything. Its just one of those things.
I would say however she's cool with it or at least she said she'd rather still see me then nothing. But I think she should drop me and pursue something better with a guy who can give her the attention she or anyone deserves in a relationship. I told her this stuff but she's still happy to wait until timing suits us better.
Having gone on with this plan I find myself feing guilty as hell for not giving her my time and attention and I have to tell myself she said she was okay with this.
Even now I'm avoiding texting her because I don't even know what me and her are doing anymore.
I would have talked to her already and had a conversation potentially ending things but I just can't do that right before Christmas! So I'm waiting until after Christmas day a few days after to discuss what we are.
I might suggest casual hangouts for a while and see where we are when I get home.
Dunno how to suggest that without turning her off the idea completely.
I was not finishing inside of her and she was on birth control. We were okay with our level of risk taking and had talked about how we would react to an unplanned pregnancy. She WAS tested but only for one STD. The result was not inaccurate as you suggest.
She wasn't really creepy, but there were things that I found offputing. When she mentioned that she was “too much”, I agreed. It was too intense and we both had really different things in mind. I could speak to her about it, but I just don't know what to say.
One of my closest friends has a partner that does that and I hear about it all of the time. They pay the rent and their entire college tuition.
ONE dude doing it doesn't mean it's common at all. It's not. Besides, why would they do it? To show they care? And do you honestly believe most people can afford to pay their own rent and their gf's?
Would you randomly purchase your girl flowers when she has made it clear she loves flowers?
Yes, I would. I don't find this asking for too much if you've already told him you love flowers.
What scares me is that it’s not equal. I said it earlier but pregnancy. It literally wreaks havoc woman’s body, physically and mentally. Nutrition is drained from your body, you are torn apart, and can become paralyzed or die. It is SUCH a sacrifice, and then after all of that you are expected to provide the same financially and sometimes more emotionally that your partner does. It’s not equal.
You keep focusing on pregnancy, but are you pregnant now? Planning to be soon? Of course pregnancy can be brutal, but why does it have to be a concern now? Assuming you're in the US with shitty or nonexistent maternal leave, I think it's fair to reevaluate financial contributions at that point – it wouldn't make sense for you to contribute the same if you don't have paid leave, for example.
And emotional labor is a real thing in a relationship.
If you feel he doesn't contribute in that regard, that's another issue. Relationships aren't always 50/50, but both partners should do their part.
China….restrictions are a part of life. Covid or no covid. Do you really want to online in that country, when you have the choice to online in any country?? Do you want to raise your future children in that country? You got to be kidding me….
She cheated on him and he didn’t go NC with her and is still happy to see her something is fishy about this. He can lose you after 4 years for hiding this kind of things. He should know that secrets eventually comes out then it’s too late and the trust is gone.
Some urinary health and cleaning products can actually cause irritation and cause UTIs, so I would be double checking if you should really be using them or not.
Do you drink plenty of water?
Have you both been tested for UTIs or thrush or bacterial vaginosis. The last 2 are not sti, but can be passed to each other but can also be caused by stress and a poor immune system where the normal bacteria/yeast that normally lives with you go out of control.
Does he clean his genitals? Good if it’s water, bad if he doesn’t or if he uses soap on his genitals. If he washes his genitals with soap, any soap residue or perfume left behind can irritate you.
Water is all you and him should be using to clean your genitals, or you can cause irritation which will lead to infections.
However, is it worth trying to find a solution for a man that won’t listen? And doesn’t care about your health?
Seriously. So according to OPs bf, any immigrant should just abandon their heritage and culture for their new country. ?
Okay he said he’ll see me again so it’s fine!
So he’s saying you’re not naked?
When they show you what they are, believe them.
Literally the Wiki and giant pinned post of that sub have detailed articles and help lines titled “Is This Abuse.” It is dedicated to helping not only people who know they have been abused, but also to helping people realize when they are being abused.
As sincerely as I can say this, please shut the fuck up about things you clearly don’t know. You could have very easily taken 1 glance at that sub and seen the pinned post, seen the Wiki, or seen any of the posts that redirect to those resources. And yet here you are, lecturing on something you have never even looked at. Stop.
One piece of advice I would give you is go have yourself checked for STDs. Then have him do a second check even if the first one comes back OK. A week later. And don’t give him any for a week at least just in case
I understand why you think this is the balanced reply but you risk being conveniently naive. You did try the friendship thing, it failed, right? Like after your sordid videocall I assume you promised it would be platonic and it just went off the rails and got many magnitudes worse, right?
This wasn't ever a friendship. She was always looking to cheat and she pushed it that direction. You are now invested emotionally, making you even less likely to resist it.
You should never talk to this dude again lol. He sounds like a huge POS, not to mention a misogynist. Why do you want to be with someone who is constantly verbally abusing you? He definitely started talking to this girl while you were still together because he wanted to fuck her. There are so many red flags we might as well be in China.
I know it’s naked, I know you don’t want to. You will be absolutely miserable for as long as you don’t. This is a guarantee. He will absolutely cheat on you, he will absolutely try to control you. Just… why?!
Just keep calling him Flanders until he shaves it off
“We've known each other for 7 years and I'm not particularly visually impaired so I saw what she wears on a daily basis. Not that we're two years in, I want her to be more like %insert someone from a pretty picture%”.
That's what you get. Women like you date older men because you think you're “mature”.
You get used. You're clearly not mature, you got yourself knocked up.
Wait, do you think young women are mentally deficient? Nice.
It’s not a time share, it’s definitely her families. And I have mentioned it before, said that we need to find a date to go, and that I would love to visit specifically that area of Spain. And yet, other people went regularly and I didn’t get an invite
I hope she feels the same way in the morning and dumps his ass. “Sleep it off” wtf kinda bullshit is that? He’s a total asshole and a cheater.
Sexual texts, probably not. As for talking shit that would depend on what was said, an ex made a disparaging comment directed at me about an auto immune disorder I suffer from, and I haven't spoken to her since, but in a different relationship I forgave a partner for cheating and we only split a couple of years later because she wanted to move to a different country and I didn't. Different things affect me in different ways. If something is a deal breaker for you, then it's a deal breaker. We all have different boundaries.
Why is it naked to believe that someone holds 4 million dollars worth of GICs?…
4 million dollars in GICs make my father $100,000 in interest every year… for someone whose retired and has everything paid off that’s a pretty decent income…
Ask her exactly what she wants
See if you can keep record of these incidents. The bro environments are utterly sickening and gross.
I worked at one of the top 5 companies in America, design related field and my manager hired guys that literally looked like him, bald and completely incompetent at design and the similarities in bro culture were like so obvious that everyone noticed on my team
I had to leave because not only did this guy have political connections, but he was in the company for over 15 years and made my life hell basically wanting status updates twice a day and finding fault with everything I do even though a colleague/sort of friend noticed that the new guys he hired weren’t doing anything but he’d always praise them and it led to me being sick and tired every day. I had to quit for my own health.
He was mostly angry at my competence and knowledge. The guy that hired me had retired and we were left with a clown that basically was put in “power” because he was there the longest
I don’t think you should need his permission. However, it’s weird you didn’t think to talk to him about it beforehand, either. You both need a mindset change.
What? You're not buying her getting multiple orgasms and now after seeing him twice she's madly in love with him? ?
You've already apologised just stop. If he brings it up again apologise again without making an excuse for why you didn't do it.
It is more important to not do the thing you've apologised for.
There's one major issue: the leader is my boyfriend's best friend. They've known each other forever. My bf trusts him… How can I convince him it's not right to pay such money and tell him his friend is exploiting him? I don't want my bf to think I'm trying to make him quit the religion or turning him against his friend
I don’t think women OR men should do anything they don’t want to. Maybe he would be good with spermicide. He never said he wants a vasectomy. So I’m just saying, he doesn’t have to have one.
You posted this already. Did you not like the answers?
thats cheating & you cheated. at 24 you still don't know it?
tell her or someone else will then you will be in deeper shit.
& YOU BETTER STOP unless you are ready to be single again.
Everybody is just trying to make sure you understand that, but you have been super confrontational and get a very rude attitude that makes you sound very bad, and you keep going, you don't know when to just stop becsuse you are making things worse.
You know what, long ago I used to be a bit like that, I matured and worked on myself. It is ok to be confident and know whar you want, BUT the way you express and defend it it's important, because insted of sounding confident we can sound loud, dumb annoying and entitled instead… it backfires.
Again what you want it's ok and normal, you are still in your 20s good money comes a bit later most of the time and in this crazy world takes longer than it used to and it's harder, a lot of people are getting what you said that you are looking for someone that makes 250k a year and are getting crazy, bust keep in mind that the love of your life could still be doing way less and barely scraping right now, my husband and I used to make a freaction of what we make right now at your age.
Sit down with her and work out both of your expenses. Make a tally over several months. Include vacations, saving etc.
Then decide upon what is a fair amount for each to contribute. This is the key conversation and may take time. You’ll both need to get into values about fairness.
Set up a joint account for shared expenses. You both transfer the agreed amount every month. If there is a surplus save it, if a deficit you two need to recalculate and transfer more, or cut some expenses.
Have a new discussion when the situation changes, such as incomes or wanting to make a major purchase.
1000% need to dump him, he either sleeping with her or trying to.
Either way he 26 years old acting a fool, dump him tell him he now free to act single without dragging you down.
And block him everywhere
oh, lol that is not how I meant for that to come across at all.
“bullshitting” = “shooting the shit” = just talking about whatever.
that's waaaaaay different than “talking shit (about somebody).”
…reddit really needs to get its shit together. ?
He’s doesn’t want to try things, and yes it’s mostly missionary on his side. anything else it’s very awkward. It kinda reminds me of the first time having sex scene in movies where it’s really awkward, it’s like that but every time, he always soooo shy. I do want to try and fix this cause I really do love him but idk how long do I give it until I realize this is how he’s going to be. I try to blame it the fact he hasn’t had much partners in his online, but you can’t teach someone who doesn’t want to learn
Tell his boss. Tell everyone what a predator he's being. Probably getting bjs in the car and he buys her shoes and shit. Gross. He's sick. Go scorched earth. Blow his sick little world up.
I know I'm depressed. My family sees it, I feel it, and friends notice. There have been far too many tunneling thoughts into my own mind, which end up way to dark to mention on here.
She says she's tired of feeling like she is wasting her life and deserves more. Tired of not being happy and me not helping. Tired of the same conversations and same results.
Should I try reaching out?
No.
They've moved on. They clearly don't care about you or the friendship you had. You're putting so much energy into someone who won't put that same energy into you.
You're draining your cup and not even using it fill someone else's cup – you're literally throwing all of this energy (and now money) down the drain.
I know it's harsh, and I know you want closure, and I know you're grieving and all of this is normal … but the shitty reality is that you'll never get what you're looking for out of this person even if you do reach out.
It's time to focus on you and healing the hurt you're feeling.
Your wife is common law divorced from you. She has no attachment to you or your children.
Stand up for yourself and your daughter. At this point on you are complicit. In 20 years how will you answer your daughter’s question of how did you protect me? Well ?