Someone who is late clearly doesn’t respect your time or you in general. These are serious red flags especially for someone over the age of30. Sounds more like your the affair partner.
tbf, i think she's displayed her own share of unhelpful communication “errors”. I dont want you to fall into the “im a terrible person and to blame for everything” trap bc a) i dont think thats true. You're only responsible for you and while its necessary to acknowledge and take accountability for past behaviors, its equally, if not more important, to focus on what you can do more positively moving forwards.
and b) you're young and struggling, and depression already makes you feel shitty enough. Yes, take accountability and apologize, but please try not to wallow in your despair. It helps neither of you (ik, easier said than done, i do understand that).
Maybe, just maybe, if you're both willing and able to work on it, you two can work it out. Being so far apart and her living with her parents made things so much harder than they probably would have been otherwise. With those things less of an issue soon, it'd be easier (but still not easy) to sort things out. It'd involve open communication, trust-building, and a sincere desire from both of you. Agreeing upon healthy boundaries would be imperative i.e. figuring out what her supporting you during your mental health issues vs her/you making her responsible for them would look like. Ideally you'd be in therapy and you could use that to help guide you.
There is however the chance that the relationship has been damaged (by both of you) beyond realistic repair. You're both young. Its okay that mistakes were made. Its okay if neither of you has the tools to make it work. It'd hurt, but it'd be understandable. Its also okay if you simply want to be single so you can focus on your mental health. You've got to do what you've got to do in order to get well.
Save yourself. Run as fast as you can.
Someone who is late clearly doesn’t respect your time or you in general. These are serious red flags especially for someone over the age of30. Sounds more like your the affair partner.
She loves to feel pretty, so I highly doubt it wasn’t at all appreciated.
You know symptoms of a long-term illness can change in severity frequently, right?
literally zero mentioned in the post. If we are just reacting to made up situations then lets to it with something fun.
How on earth did you get to seven years together and you’ve never even discussed marriage?
That’s not true.
You sound like an awful person to be in a relationship with. Feel bad for your husband
I haven’t touched him since. I just can’t.
tbf, i think she's displayed her own share of unhelpful communication “errors”. I dont want you to fall into the “im a terrible person and to blame for everything” trap bc a) i dont think thats true. You're only responsible for you and while its necessary to acknowledge and take accountability for past behaviors, its equally, if not more important, to focus on what you can do more positively moving forwards.
and b) you're young and struggling, and depression already makes you feel shitty enough. Yes, take accountability and apologize, but please try not to wallow in your despair. It helps neither of you (ik, easier said than done, i do understand that).
Maybe, just maybe, if you're both willing and able to work on it, you two can work it out. Being so far apart and her living with her parents made things so much harder than they probably would have been otherwise. With those things less of an issue soon, it'd be easier (but still not easy) to sort things out. It'd involve open communication, trust-building, and a sincere desire from both of you. Agreeing upon healthy boundaries would be imperative i.e. figuring out what her supporting you during your mental health issues vs her/you making her responsible for them would look like. Ideally you'd be in therapy and you could use that to help guide you.
There is however the chance that the relationship has been damaged (by both of you) beyond realistic repair. You're both young. Its okay that mistakes were made. Its okay if neither of you has the tools to make it work. It'd hurt, but it'd be understandable. Its also okay if you simply want to be single so you can focus on your mental health. You've got to do what you've got to do in order to get well.