I went through the same thing with my asian parents except its because i'm dating a girl (im a girl).
Honestly, read the book “adult children of emotionally immature parents”, and untangle yourself from your parents. You have the right to live! your own life, and i know how enmeshed asian parents can get and how entitled they feel to control your life… you need to walk away and stop letting your parents control your life. Their actions are a reflection of their beliefs not yours.
i've not talked to my parents in about 2 years because they also refuse to recognize my girlfriend and you know what. It feels SO FREAKING GOOD
Where you a woman I could understand your boyfriend wanting to avoid public cause people would side eye a couple where the girl has a black eye. “Is he beating her?”
Here it is less stigma. But I get it doesn’t feel festive looking at your beaten face and maybe thinking people will think she is forcing you to celebrate when you should be home and rest. I would get stab of thinking it looks painful looking at it. It isn’t really something that might be easy to ignore. I get it feels bad to be made aware that it looks worse than you feel. But she is communicating here. It can be seen as her imperfection or you are incompatible, but it can also be seen as she is safe enough to not pretend seeing your face hurt isn’t bothering her.
I went through the same thing with my asian parents except its because i'm dating a girl (im a girl).
Honestly, read the book “adult children of emotionally immature parents”, and untangle yourself from your parents. You have the right to live! your own life, and i know how enmeshed asian parents can get and how entitled they feel to control your life… you need to walk away and stop letting your parents control your life. Their actions are a reflection of their beliefs not yours.
i've not talked to my parents in about 2 years because they also refuse to recognize my girlfriend and you know what. It feels SO FREAKING GOOD
That’s a terrible thing to say. I’m glad I’m not your husband. Imagine a marriage only valued at 15 minute of sex, regardless of who it was smh
Where you a woman I could understand your boyfriend wanting to avoid public cause people would side eye a couple where the girl has a black eye. “Is he beating her?”
Here it is less stigma. But I get it doesn’t feel festive looking at your beaten face and maybe thinking people will think she is forcing you to celebrate when you should be home and rest. I would get stab of thinking it looks painful looking at it. It isn’t really something that might be easy to ignore. I get it feels bad to be made aware that it looks worse than you feel. But she is communicating here. It can be seen as her imperfection or you are incompatible, but it can also be seen as she is safe enough to not pretend seeing your face hurt isn’t bothering her.