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Ditch them both and anyone who sides with them
Philippines: Red flag
Still in contact with ex: red flag
Receiving regular gifts: red flag
Don't know how many more you need
Shes the only person ive been sexual with
4 kids. She said he quit after the first then they had 3 more. That's just crazy to me. Granted having 4 kids at all sounds insane to me but to have them knowing he's not working or helping doesn't sound like a great idea. Though hindsight is 20/20.
Why do they have to do research. She has already given consent. This is not a rape fantasy. People really over complicate normal stuff.
So you have never had sex ? You are waiting until marriage for intercourse?
Gaslighting
I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who worked that much. Might as well be single with the, gone all the time.
No.
Having a college degree doesn’t not matter in a relationship.
It only enforces trust of employers and customers.
Not being “useless, unreliable, and untrustworthy” matters in a relationship.
No, off course not. I had a master but lost it to my husband during a chess game… He still loves me now he does have a master and I don't.
Can confirm, happened to me. An ex comes into the picture and your girl starts going cold?
End it.
Yeah, then it sounds like a childhood pattern he hasn’t gotten rid off, if it’s not rooted in reality.
Google sunk cost fallacy.
Because that's what abusers do. They're not abusive form the start, because then the other person would immediately nope out. They wait until you're too deep in. Which can take months, even years. Often this starts after marrying, having a child, moving together, etc.
You've been blessed by getting to know his abusive side early on. Don't disregard this blessing and gtfo.
She fetishizes Black guys. It's weirdly racist. As for your edit, wtf.
Everyone grow up. Welcome to real adulthood. Lol. You will see big difference between kids and adult friendships. Kids think they’re popular by counting how many friends or followers. Adults mind their business. Lol
I did. My boobs are/were huge. The bra felt tight around my middle and I didn't want anything to touch me that wasn't needed. Plus it was a LOT easier to just lift up my shirt and pop baby on the boob.
How do you what he is looking at them for?
Maybe he is looking to help you better. How do you know he is satisfying himself by looking at these things.
My opinion is that it can lead to a spiral if not nibbed in the bud early. If you care for her, keep supporting her however the house situation is difficult.
I know someone who lost their job, lost a family member and spiraled. She became lazy, over-weigh, less responsive to criticism, less motivated, and took years to find a job. I felt so bad for the husband who is one loyal mfer and supported her and accepted the new her.
I feel bad though because of what he had to go through. He is more reserved so he didn't push. Now it's kinda… Eh.
Keep pushing her to be the best her. She needs to learn to overcome it and one step is to find meaning and keep busy. A job will give her that and that extra money and less time to dwell over it will also make the situation better. Then over time, she will get a routine and snap back into a good mindset.
My opinion is I would give her a chance. If I can't encourage or she becomes aggressive towards me for pushing her to find a job and makes you the bad guy. That's when I would stop.
Imagine living in a world where you could publicly be against something that other people are doing and still be able to be loving and civil with each other.
On one hand, your husband is right, little point in angrily closing the barn doors after the animals have escaped, or crying over spilled milk.
On the other hand, everybody else should be mature enough to handle somebody else not being cool with what they are doing, but also understand you aren't giving them an ultimatum, or “you're dead to me” or I don't want to see you in my house again.
However, in today's mainstream Western culture, young people are NOT conditioned to be able to handle not getting 100% acceptance over everything they do big or small. They are also likely conditioned to demonize anybody who doesn't accept everything they do big or small. So how infected are your kids by this cultural mind virus?
Listen to your gut.
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How will things change?
You are both young and have plenty of time to find the person for each of you. Don’t be with someone with whom you have fundamentally different views. Dragging it out won’t make it better
Man had some mega post but clarity there ?
I mean yeah it's a win win for him. He gets a 20 yo fuck toy while he goes out and find his actual gf.
You flirting with others turned into such a big win for him!
Everything seems to come back to your ex-wife not doing enough. What are you doing about this behavior? You're right that your partner isn't his parent, but YOU are. So step in and act like it. Co-parent with your ex-wife. Make plans for how to deal with this and stick to it. Reinforce to your son that his behavior towards his mom is unacceptable. Model appropriate behavior for the sorts of situations (such as not kicking your partner out over hearing something you don't like and ghosting for the night). BE A GODDAMN PARENT.
It's both you and your ex-wife's fault. You're both his parents and you're both responsible for raising your son, even when you're divorced. There is no “my ex failed but I didn't” here. If your son is acting out, it's on both of you, full stop.
Also, your partner is right. Your son has learned that if he screams and hits people enough, he'll get his way. He has no reason at the moment to change that behavior because there have been no consequences for it. I don't know why this is so hot for you to grasp. Take your head out of the sand and listen to the responses. I would hate for you to be surprised when your son gets hit with an assault charge as an adult.
Not accepting rejecting and the fact you're taken is extremely disrespectful and can be considered harassment. Don't let your ego fuck up your relationship. If you really want to break up with her, don't do it because another girl is giving you attention and feeding into your insecurities.
You can support her by encouraging her to see a therapist or talk to her faith leader, if she's religious. You can listen is she wants to talk to you about her feelings, but it's hot to stay neutral in such a situation, so it may be best to support her processing elsewhere.
You took over 6 months to tell your girlfriend a coworker was aggressively pursuing you? You’ve demonstrated a significant lack of respect for her and your relationship
There's nothing wrong with you.
A lot of people don't meet their partner until later in life.
I didn't meet my first wife until I was 23. Until then, I had a few girlfriends, but no really long-term relationship (not for lack of trying!).
Today, I'm 58. I was married to my first wife for 10 years, then dated my current wife for 8 years before marrying her 14 years ago.
It's more embarrassing and creepy that you've went out of your way to make different reddit accounts to post this so many times.
It might be the case, doesn’t mean it is.
You need to talk to her. Establish boundaries. Does a break still mean you’re still monogamous with each other? What does you “being better” look like? What’s her time frame she wants to live! in this situation? This is not healthy nor sustainable the way you guys are doing this.
If you want to stay because you’re a coward, that’s entirely up to you. Losing friends ect is a valid fear, but not a reason to live! the rest of your life in an abusive relationship, which is what this is. What you are doing is setting an awful example to your daughter about what to expect for the rest of her life. She can expect to be walked over, mistreated, ignored and to have to exist in the tiniest of boxes. She will learn this because you are more afraid of the opinions of strangers than you want to protect and do the best for your daughter. It’s up to you.
Dancing with a ex, in public at a wedding…. Is not the same as going to an exs home for hours in private.
If you use condoms that are at hers, she may have tampered with them (pin holes through perhaps),and her saying she's on birth control is just words .
It sounds like she's got pregnant with her ex, in order to get him and her back together. When that Didn't work, she's decided to use the same trap on you.
Tell her, until you have a DNA test done, you cannot accept this baby is yours. So you would like it done pre birth, just to get the insecurity out the way and you can start planning the babies life together. (This is what you tell her, not necessarily what you actually think.)
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My girlfriend says that family important to her
So why isn't she protecting her family: your children, and also you?
Have you ever taken your gf to a therapy appointment and laid out all the abuse and how it affected you? She might know surface levels of what happened to you, but some people don't understand abuse until its in their face.
It’s not private, just like your Reddit history isn’t private, and I didn’t shame him. I asked him about it. Either way I appreciate the advice.
That has to do with your maturity level, not an inherent immorality of age gap relationships.
I went to school in a major city. The girls I met who were 18,19, who moved to a big city and living a pretty wild life are going to have a different maturity level than an 18 year old girl who just graduated from a Mormon high school.
A 25 year old guy who has been living at home since graduating high school, who decides to go back to college and start his life is going to have a different maturity level than a 25 year old professional who is building a career and trying to become a manager.
Are there certain situations where age gap relationships among adults is weird? Absolutely, but none of them are brought up in this thread (because they aren’t relevant).
I literally just typed this same thing.
You should've explained to Larry in a text that she found out because he texted you in front of her while driving and she looked through your phone.
If you did that then its not in your post. It's vital information and without it just sounds like you blabbed and it's no wonder Larry would ignore you.
I'm so sorry you went through that. It sounds painful on many levels.
Emotional illness doesn't excuse her assaulting you, whether in public or in private. She certainly deserves to get help, and to have her issues treated with compassion, but that doesn't change your right to be safe. She doesn't deserve to have you as her punching bag.
I've had that same “switch flipping” moment, more than once. I can't explain it either, but there's no going back. You tried your best. You're absolutely right to walk away, this woman is not ready to be with anyone right now.
Sell it on Etsy, you'll get your money back
To be clear – you like noses when people can't fucking breathe properly and want help figuring out how to tell her that?
She did this for a medical reason.
I stopped reading after the headline.
So you never actually told him you need more foreplay. That is entirely on you. You lied and then surprised him by going straight to, “let's use a vibrator bc you don't do it for me.” But you never told him what you need. If I was him, I'd be pissed off at you.
Thats great. But I think the moral is you can't assume everyone is like you. I definitely have the time at home and my performance doesn't suffer. Many others are the same.
So do you turn the heating off when you are alone?
It’s hot to see it that way. He only supports and treats me good. I can’t push myself to hate him
If someone getting a hair cut and having hair where adults have hair causes you to end a relationship….yeah sounds like they need therapy
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Whoever said A you know you’re wrong and are just being difficult?
Whoever said A you know you’re wrong and are just being difficult?
Does anyone has any idea what are his feelings towards me? Is this some type of tactic to keep me close? Is this relationship hopelles or is it worth it to try harder? I really dont want to leave him, but im tired of his behaviour
UM NO it is not overreacting. I don’t know a man who saves fandoms nudes unless he’s a porn addict or a weirdo.
My wife would let Sana spank me
Sweetie, it's not up to him. If you c9ntinue to give him this power over you, then you'll be stuck with him. This isn't going to be easy & it's gonna hurt like hell. But you're the one who will have to be firm. Either you can do it or you can't. But it's on you my girl. There's no easy way out here or magic advice. If you want it to be over, stop speaking to him & for the love of God, stop f*cking him.
I’ve been with him almost 2 years. I know him inside and out. He said I’ll call the doctor I just don’t want to after we only 5 minutes away. He lacks in responsibility in multiple ways
Time to let the friend go.
i hope you know this bandmate is 100% stringing you along as well as probably 10s of other girls. focus on yourself please.
Contact the city or county you are in see if there's anything available for someone in your position.
Contact temp agencies to find work. Go job hunting. Take anything you can. Contact your last job and landlord. Start working towards moving back home.
Ask your ex to help with money. It's her fault you are in this situation.
well I don’t care I don’t have to flush it if I don’t want to
“You will flush the toilet like the adult you are or you will find your own place to stay and find yourself a new boyfriend”
Sounds like you spoke to her condescendingly like she is also you child. You could have said “please don't turn the TV or lights on in the room” rather than “tHaT mEaNs…” lmao. Should a grown ass adult who cares about their relationship openly roll their eyes at their partner? No. But I definitely would if I was reaching the end of my rope with a condescending partner.
This just reads like you have a fetish for people who have been through traumatic experiences, and are conflating it with loving them.
I hope after 15 years of marriage something like this would be the biggest problem in my marriage
Okay, I think the majority here are telling you that you shouldn’t take her back. I’m going to go against that opinion and offer you another option…Not really, bud. If you take her back, she will know absolutely that she can do whatever (do whoever is more accurate), and you will put up with it. Don’t do it. You won’t be happy. At all. You’re just setting yourself up for misery and self-loathing, and in a year, you’ll be posting again about how she’s found someone else.
You won't move on this way. You are still holding on. You have to stop contacting him, talking to him, etc. You can politely say hi, but anything more keeps you tethered to him. Are you sure he wants to get back together?
Eeek. I mean. She could be really amazing, but that’s a lot more baggage than most people could cope with. I mean, if you are comfortable with the situation, power to you, but I would really weigh out what you see in your future? Because you will be their step-dad, and at some point she would become your financial responsibility, are you ready for that?
If she’s not using protection with you, then it’s only a matter of time before there are six kids, five fathers. This also tells you she doesn’t learn from the past, and doesn’t seem to take other peoples lives seriously. Having that many kids at that age with no job—that’s a complete disregard for those kids lives.
Think long and hot if you see a future with her, because you shouldn’t casually date single moms anyhow, it messes up the kids even more to have a father figure rotation.
Best of luck man!
Real world checking in.
He wants to have sex, she doesn’t. That’s a sign of profound incompatibility.
He is in recovery and she wants to drink. That’s a sign of profound incompatibility .
He wants to communicate productively, and she just wants to shut down the conversation. That’s a sign of profound incompatibility.
Are you starting to see a pattern here?
People who have these types of incompatibilities generally don’t find themselves very happy in the context of a relationship. For some people, no sex is a deal breaker. For some people who are in recovery, being around people who drink isn’t conducive to staying sober. For some people who prefer their partners to be proactive and engaged communicators, having a partner who is quick to anger or a partner who shuts down emotionally or tries to shut down the conversation or who acts passive aggressive, or who acts straight up aggressive is unacceptable.
Sometimes, it’s better to find your happiness alone or with someone new, than to find your misery with your life partner, especially if you’re pushing 60.
Would you want to spend the rest of your years with a partner who makes you unhappy?
hes completely manipulating you. this is so so wrong and you deserve much better. fellow female here
You don’t want anything to come back on your mom and you yet you’re debating telling the wife yourself and sending the screenshots?
Speak to your mom. That’s all you do. Don’t get involved. Your mom is 20 years your senior, if she wants to mess her life up that’s on her… you getting involved is completely unnecessary and just looking for drama/trouble.
Nobody is going to be able to give good advice here unless you say what he did. However, I personally would not stay with someone who was cavalier with other people's safety.
Let’s get this straight. You both left your son for YEARS to go away to college at the same time. Then shortly after your son leaves for college, he blocks you.
It‘s because he realized people do in fact raise their children while attending college. You abandoned him to pursue your own goals. Not only that, but BOTH of you decided being full-time college students at the same time was more important than raising your son.
By continuing to have a healthy and stable relationship
Another person wore a white dress to a wedding? Did the ground open up and swallow her, sending her straight to Hell? No? Yeah, not the end of the world. Guessing you were a pure, untouched virgin when you walked down the aisle, too right? Since you're so traditional and all. Who cares about these fashion do's and don'ts. Anybody that disagrees would be or was a controlling bride-zilla. “My wedding, my day, everything about me me me!”
Not really, not everyone is this hyper sensitive person . That can easily be a bit of banter between a couple . Could see me or my gf saying this to each other . Calm the fuvk down this sub Reddit is the worst with how you assume the worst possible thing over trivial shit.
Love doesn't equal a long lasting relationship. If so then there is plenty of people that you can potentially love and have a relationship with, but it isn't that simple. Love can be a great way to start a relationship, but continuing it for decades requires way more than that. Especially when you live! together, share responsibilities, start a family, or even have kids. Thats when having opposing lifestyles, opposing values, opposing behaviors, etc will clash and you notice that you may love them but they arent really compatible in the long run. Anyone can get into a relationship for a short time because of “love”, but very few last just having “love” and nothing else. If you want a relationship to last love isn't enough. Notice how society exaggerates love in short term situations, but they never portray long term relationships the same way. Cause the reality is that those relationships aren't just about love. They have other good things unrelated to love that make two people coexist. Common way of life, direction in life, goals, behavior, values, expectations, effort, etc.
That isn’t a boundary, that is a form of manipulation and control. You better be allowed to have friends and hang out with your friends sometimes doing the things they like to do. Especially on a birthday.
You came here looking for affirmation, didn’t you? Judging by the comments posted, you’re not getting it.
You asked for opinions; no one said they’d be to your liking.
3 months and he is already handing you a bouquet of red flags.
Just put some pictures of you two together in her letterbox. Choose the pictures well so it’s clear it wasn’t a one-time mistake on his part.
Make sure they’re pictures that can be seen by anyone on your social media.
Alternatively, get a friend to give them to his wife’s neighbour. That way, there will be a face associated with this that won’t be yours.
Was there anything good about him before you decided you wanted to marry him?
Set rules and boundaries from the get-go.
I wouldn’t recommend lying (to your husband at least) about a girls trip because if the truth comes out somehow you might be accused of horrible disgusting things. I think your best bet is to have an open conversation with your husband. Tell him that you have been wanting to go on a short solo getaway for the longest time now and would like to do it while you are still able to. If he gets angry or hurt, just let him know this is for yourself and is not about anyone else. Also that you will be going regardless and it would just be less complicated and smooth if he doesn’t take it personally and supports you.
If you feel like lying about the girls trip would be better feel free to do that. After all you know your family best
Let this be a lesson: don't tell other people things you're not supposed to tell, especially if they work with you
What was in it?! I take it she is cheating on you.
Yeah there is something on that phone that would end your marriage, and he knows it.
I would honesty take it to a foresnsic place to see and recover the data, if he didn't break the main board it might be possible to replace the screen and get the data.
Idk bro sounds like you have a logical one here, does seem worth it. If you want to compromise do a male / male / female threesome or you should probably drop it lol
They're not together….a vasectomy won't change that They should just go their separate ways
If your husband questions it, be honest. I bet he won’t be upset and would appreciate the honesty, I would.
WTF haha, you can't be serious.
Hey, I'm a woman with a similar attitude. This isn't really a woman and man thing except that society encourages sexism. I do not cry in front of anyone else and I've always been the only person I can rely on even when things get very dark. But that comes from a place of distrust in others and never feeling emotionally safe to be vulnerable… and that's not ideal.
If you have a loving partner you can trust, who has emotional maturity, crying in front of them would not only be no problem, it would bring you closer. Knowing another person supports you in your most vulnerable moments is an important part of love. That kind of thing is where intimacy and life long bonds come from. Imagine that when you feel hurt, weak, pathetic, vulnerable, your partner supports you and steps in to be comforting. You do the same for them. That's an actual relationship, the real thing.
If the girlfriend you have now is too immature for a relationship and you end up splitting, try to vet future partners for that compassion and a lack of sexism and don't chastise yourself because you didn't do anything wrong by crying like a human being does sometimes. A genuine woman finds that to be a good, honest thing.
Damn it.
Break up and then move on.
He probably lost interest because you’re not under 18 anymore. What the fuck he was 21 dating at 16 year old!?
… even if you open a video YEARS after you took it, it doesn't change the date… If she uploaded it to her phone from a computer, the date could change, but… the date would only be recent if it was a recent video…
If it were a historic video I'd be saying this is just a non-issue, we all have histories, and if you are going to think less of someone for something sexual that they did before you were part of their life, then you're not mature enough to be in a sexual relationship… But… I'm really not seeing how it gets in you “recent videos” just because you were cleaning things out and getting ready to delete them.
But yeah, unless there is something weird about photos on iphones that acts differently than android/google photos, I'm.. no… that doesn't make sense.
you n him have been dating for a month abd his actions already have made you and your bsf uncomfortable, and the fact that he kept gaslighting you? please break up with him, you deserve better.
Hey. Thanks for the response
How do I not respond to the pleading and cries that she wants to be with me regardless and she’s gonna die without me.
No I am not allowed to compliment woman. When my friends discuss anything about women in general I tend to keep quiet out of respect for her. Even when she’s not around. I don’t talk explicitly about any woman at all but she definitely does not believe that. Hence why she stayed up listening to our conversation.. Now Ive had this conversation with her once and she says she doesn’t think it’s right. I tried reassuring that I can judge somebodies appearance and not be attracted to them but I’m sure she still thinks I want everybody I bat an eye on.
Buy him flowers
Buy him flowers
I’m not confused. Like I said, sterile and infertile are not the same thing and neither are 100%. My cousins husband was deemed sterile, not infertile. He has a kid now. A vasectomy is male sterilization and even it is not 100%.
This is nothing more than a self care routine for you and clearly an important part of your life. I'd set one final boundary. Reexplain the importance, tell him you WILL NOT change this and you're tired of defending it. He either gets on board or you aren't sure what the future looks like. That seems harsh but seriously because if he doesn't you'll either alwaaaaays be defending this or you'll sacrifice something important to you.
Cycle of abuse. Abuse, apologize/lovebomb, you get comfortable again, abuse, apologize/lovebomb, you get comfortable again, etc., etc.
and if she would have left the house, he would claim that she has “trust issues” or would trash-talk about him, so either way, she should quit therapy at all.
You both are not ready for this and her having a mental breakdown because of it is another hint not to do this right now. Both of you are not willing to compromise on anything so you are just not ready.
OP, first of all, please think about what you are saying. Other people here telling you to go to the police are correct. You need to get all of this documented. Save everything. Go to a lawyer too! Get a restraining order and legal advice. If it comes down to it, you may have to decide if keeping these things are worth dealing with this unhinged ab*sive person. Talking to professionals to find out what the best path is for you legally and to also KEEP YOURSELF SAFE is more important than the things you have received. Your life is worth more than replaceable stuff. Best of luck OP!
She basically suggested he would go to pursue teenage girls.
You don’t like what you don’t like and your partner should respect that. Also, it is very alarming that he reacts with anger when he doesn’t get what he wants. That is manipulative!
A big fat no.
So let me get this straight.
You were hoping to make out with this woman in a “love hotel” (I don't know what this is, but I can guess) and this would have been your first time.
But instead, you made a comment about sex with her ex(es?), despite knowing that she had been SA'ed by them and that this was a source of trauma for her?
If my interpretation is correct, I don't think there's any coming back from this. Apologise and don't be surprised if she never wants to speak to you again.
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I understand the concern in that but we were casually dating. Therefore I was not taking him serious so the gifts were not a concern and did not move me. If those were backed by “I love you/I want you to be my gf/etc” I would have been more apprehensive.
When he began wanting to take this trip and we started taking more recently is when I said okay he’s trying to be serious I may consider and look into things. And then this..
Well it would be nice if they apologize, and they may still do that at some point. But even if they do not, just let this go. If your wife decides she wants nothing to do with them because of this, it will very likely impact your friendship with your two friends.
People can be disappointing some times. It's not always necessary to cut people out of our lives because of it. Sometimes we just show some grace and move on, while at the same time deciding we do not have to invest so much in that friendship anymore.
My niece was 19 and OD’d on ket last year. So messed up.
Wasn’t asking you.
You heard it here first fellas. If you don't compliment your girl enough, it's only natural that she sucks a few cocks on the side for validation.
Yep
Thanks 🙂 Im fine with his diet, and I have been our entire relationship. Just not very fine with being ignored, and the killing of endangered animals yk
Not a deal breaker, the only thing you should be worried about is her safety.
Your two definitely have a communication break down and she's resentful.
I've only got a couple of suggestions but it sounds like your relationship has collapsed over a bunch of little issues.
When you clean the kitchen ask her to come check and ask her if you forgot anything.
If she says you dirtied the floor ask her to show you and clean up what she shows you is messy.
You're getting older and maybe she “mumbles” or you can't hear her when she's not facing you because your experiencing hearing loss. Go get your hearing checked.
Cut back your gym time to 4 times a week and use the other day to have a social life with your wife and friends.
Figure out the ways you're not respecting her and fix it.
I am also a person who hates surprises. The surprise could be the most thoughtful thing in the world but I won't enjoy it if it's a surprise. I find surprises to be stressful. So I fully understand your wife's reaction. Don't surprise people who hates surprises. It completely negates your gift because of the delivery.
If she won't go to couples therapy go by yourself. Maybe a therapist can help you learn some new relationship skills and you can at least work on your contribution to the relationship. If she sees you taking the initiative to go to therapy it might change her mind and she'll join you.
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I guess I forgot to explain that, but she isn't going for other guys. We spent most of our days together, and when we aren't, we are constantly sending snaps, so I pretty much know what she's up to at all times. She doesn't really have the capacity to feel romantic things right now I guess. If she was getting with someone else, trust me I would know.
It’s not a productive convo because what’s gonna be said doesn’t need to be said as it’s not necessary to share and won’t make a difference to say it and you won’t change his mind. And it is okay, it’s just a rejection if you asked him on a date. And if you didn’t ask him on a date and you’re just having this hypothetical conversation then it’s pointless because it’s hypothetical. Maybe you can say if it’s something I need to work on I would like to know. If it is something you cannot accept then I don’t need to know. You can request constructive criticism but you cannot request an explanation.