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Date: November 30, 2022
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Forget fixing your bf – fix yourself. Giving someone the silent treatment is abusive and just plain mean. You are not healthy enough for a relationship. I get that you must have learned it from your mother, but you can take responsibility for your own life and learn to change.
Apologize to your bf and get into therapy, OP.
She's a jerk, but what she said isn't racist.
If she does it again, remind her of the very real possibility of melanoma in her future.
You can try, but be aware that a failing of the relationship probably means the end of the friendship too. What do you feel imagining her with another boy? In the end i think that means she wants to upgrade to something deeper, while you only see hindrances in upgrading. The fwb era goes to its end anyway, cause shes in search of relationship. You have to decide weather to keep her close as friend or go exclusive and risking a future
He is in need of therapy. If there is any hope of recovering from this he will absolutely need to get professional help to combat his past trauma and insecurities. If he is unable to, I am afraid there is'nt much hope for a healthy relationship other thwn a coparenting one. I wish you luck OP
Thank you, I’m really glad I reached out on here, its been helpful to have others opinions and insight. I’m going to talk to him about it and hopefully he will want to work out a solution/get help.
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I wasted 22-30.
you've got time!
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I think it’s weird that you would call your casual sexism an “innocent remark” while hers isn’t innocent, because it’s your own insecurity. Women have to deal with casual “innocent remark” sexism on a daily, it gets exhausting.
You're annoyed with him because you don't want to be with him. You're being unfair to him by letting him believe you have a future together.
“I unzipped a hoodie all the way when she asked me not to” her hoodie? You took off her hoodie after she said not to?
Your gf is a horrible human being, I am so sorry. You did nothing wrong.
Open hole for everybody? A teenage girl that is groomed by an 8 year older man?
I get that you are Hurt but direct your anger at the person it belongs too
This is a classic case of a dude trying to impress his GF but falling flat on his face. I feel ya, we've all been there. But here's the deal, if he said he booked the joint and you know you need a credit card to hold the res, then bring it up. Don't be afraid to call him out, bro. But do it in a casual way, like “Yo, did you actually book that restaurant or were you just trying to impress me? It's cool either way, I'm just curious.” Just remember, you don't want to come across as nagging or overly concerned, cuz that's not a good look.
If he did actually book it, then cool, enjoy your fancy dinner. If not, then it's not a big deal, y'all can still have a good time and find somewhere else to eat. Just don't make it a big issue, cuz that's not what V-Day is about.
And remember, don't stress too much about it. You're only a few months in, it's not like you're expecting a ring or anything. Just enjoy each other's company, have a good meal, and have a good time.
A ruptured appendix is a life threatening situation though. Like, you could never hear from her again and nobody wpuld think of notifying you. Here it was just an allergic reaction
The guy became verbally aggressive about a stain on a sheet and then instantly escalated when roommates understandably checked up on yelling.
The roommates suddenly had an aggressive, combative guy in their house threatening both their safety and the safety of their friend in a sexual situation.
The only way that turns physical is if he refused to leave.
You have as shitty judgement as OP does.
For her, this falls into the “fuck around, find out” box.
For you it’s a boundary you finally enforced.
The feelings you feel are normal. It’s grief over the end of the relationship and maybe sorrow at letting down a friend. But it’s not your responsibility to be their relationship of last resort and take her back after every fling.
They did have a teen relationship then… there’s just happened to work out and obviously wasn’t toxic enough to warrant a breakup. You’re just being rudely snarky
You are so lucky that this happened now. It makes it very easy to end this relationship before it even really started.
Your a grown woman dating a grown man. 'Park dates' are not OK, and his reaction to the suggestion of dinner in a restaurant is alarming.
Run, don't walk.
Who keeps a folder on a main drive a decade later?
Fucking nobody. He moved that drive to each successive upgrade of equipment.
Lol glad to give you a chuckle
You deserve better
Religion and shame, like peas in a pod
Outside of the chance he’s a Jehovas Witness, he doesn’t seem super interested in these kinds of events.
With y’all being 9 years deep, I don’t know if this is something that’s going to change, the cement seems dry with this one.
I’d just be blunt. Let him know how it makes you feel and why it’s important to you. A little more effort on these days ain’t that big of an ask.
Well, there’s a few things I’m getting from the situation, at least to me. So obviously you’re not obligated to take my advice and please understand I’m not trying to be vicious or cut you down and insult you.
I will try to list the problems with solutions just for the sake of keeping this short:
Your boyfriend needs to know he’s to stay away from the kid when he’s out drinking. Not in the home, not in a different bedroom, but he needs to go home. This is because drunk people are challenging to communicate with even when they are happy drunks. The kid is not going to understand.
Yes it is your house, but the way you typed expressed a harsh ownership mentality of ‘it’s MINE’, I’m not sure if you intended to come off that way, but if you’re trying to build a life with someone or if it’s a serious relationship— assuming it is, because he has met your kid, then you need to enable him to have more agency. Otherwise he’s just existing in the scenario to cater to your needs without anything being considered for his. Yes, it is your home, and it is pretty impressive how empowered you are as a single mother to be on top of your shit. That is definitely something to be proud of— but the fact remains that if you are not prepared to share then it will lead to feeling like people will serve you.
Insomnia sucks, if it is a requirement that you have a partner who is sensitive to your quality of sleep then this is a boundary you need to make clear to him he must respect without negotiation. However, if he’s the kind of person who needs cuddle time at night to feel loved, then there’s going to need to be a solution: you may want to consider cuddle time on the weekends so both your needs are met, or some kind of marker or indication of when it is okay, and when it is not okay. I can relate in the way that I have adhd instead of insomnia and sleep interruptions will actually mess up my routines and I will have no sense of time for the day — but that doesn’t mean I can carry myself while completely informing the needs of my partner, otherwise he will feel ignored. So I have to do little things to let him know he can hold on to in order to remind himself he is still loved and cared for instead of sitting there stewing when he is rejected from cuddling that night. Otherwise just saying ‘not tonight’ feels like a brush off. Sometimes they may mean sending a cute text if I am sleeping before he comes home, or leaving a little post it with hearts but the door that I really need sleep but I am so excited to do X with him in the morning, or I tell him how lucky I am to have him. Basically I give him things to feel good about, so he’s not stewing on ‘I wanted to cuddle and she said no and I’m trying to care about her but she rejected me :(‘ so instead I give him things to look forward to, and it goes over well because both of us get rest, wake up, and we are both excited and ready.
Your boyfriend is immature in the way where he was using the fact that your kid came in to disturb you as a reason why it is okay to disturb you. I would draw less attention from the idea of ‘it’s my bed I do what I want’ and bring the concentration more on ‘the mother and child relationship is different than bf/gf relationship and I expect you to understand there is an obligation for things I have to do for my kid, and you as a responsible partner will need to stay strong and accept it instead of trying to get the same treatment.’
Him refusing to leave when you asked him. This is absolutely unacceptable. This is actually the time where it is acceptable to assert yourself in your own house: the fact is, he came home drunk, felt happy, woke up your kid to use as an excuse to have you woken up as an excuse to cuddle with you, and then you went to another bed instead of communicating (in which depending on how drunk he was he could have imagined that you left with the intention for him to follow out of privacy. Not saying it was right, but he was drunk and tired, and wanting his way so who knows how his mind distorted it) but you shouldn’t have ‘needed’ to leave to go to a different bed, you should have explained to him that he needs to leave to a different bed. When you asked him to leave and go home, this is where I think you should put your foot down that if you ask him to leave, regardless of what he believes his intentions are, then you are asking because you feel uncomfortable. If you tell him to leave, and he does not listen, then you should absolutely escalate the situation even if it gets the police involved— this is entirely a non negotiable situation. Yes, it will be disruptive and annoying, but requesting someone to leave your house is very critical that it is abided by. So if you told him to leave, and he said no, then you should have told him to leave or you will need to call the police, and if he still said no, then he is to actually leave.
the above scenario demonstrates the immaturity on his side, you are already raising a child. He is expected to be a man, not a second child. It means he is accountable for his own behavior and he needs to respect people’s feelings around him regardless if he dislikes their decisions or not. He is a 30 something year old man. Sometimes you don’t want to do something or you don’t like something, but suck it up. So, you do need to have a talk that if you experience a scenario where you are chased from room to room that needs to stop. You do need to explain if you request him to leave then ‘no’ is not going to be an option. (Frankly, when he came drunk, I would recommend that would be the time to call him an Uber and send him home while explaining how you really want him to immediately come over for breakfast)
The middle finger in front of your face. This is absolutely not acceptable under any circumstances. While I think you’re pretty much a saint for keeping your shit together (because I probably would have totally lost it if my fiancé did that to me), your boyfriend needs to understand the truth about life: Romantic love is not actually unconditional: he can save that behavior for his mommy who has to ultimately accept the dipshit things he does. You? You are a 41 year old strong woman who wouldn’t take this shit from someone at work, wouldn’t take this shit from someone at a family reunion, and certainly isn’t going to take this shit from her man. The reason I said you seem high maintenance is not because ‘you’ create problems, but as an adult, it is your responsibility to swiftly stop problems even if they are created by other people. Tolerating childish behavior from a partner is equally as unacceptable as initiating it yourself.
The fact is this: your child is there, it’s spring break, you require a man who can suck it up for a week and do what is needed of him. Sometimes it’s not going to feel fair, sometimes it’s not going to be happy, but a partner who has their shit together can totally survive a week.
Your mistake here is not that you’re ‘unable to teach him’— you’re not supposed to be a teacher, you’re supposed to be a partner. You actually are supposed to assert boundaries and not make exceptions and he’s suppose to decide if he can be counted on to respect them or not. I understand some times we want to work with partners to keep them happy, as a 38 year old woman, I know it all too well. But your job is supposed to push him to be better, not support or coddle him when he is behaving like shit.
The only thing you need to work on is your communication style in a way he is receptive to when delivering messages of these boundaries and the prioritization of the problems at hand. Again, I will try to avoid writing a novel as best I can for how I would go about it in the order of priority:
You need him to moderate himself when your kid is present in the situation: that includes intoxication, that includes arguing, and it includes not hearing the word no. If you do something that upsets him, then he needs to wrap it up and save it to go over when you have alone time (that means sometimes planning alone time or something at least once a week to bring things up)
You need to assert that as a guest, if you ask him to leave, then he is to do so or you will lay the hammer down because that is what happens in adult life.
You need to come up with a specific way to make it clear when you are ok with cuddling at night and when you want to be left alone so he knows what he’s getting before he tries, but you need to come up with ways to make up the difference if he sleeps alone, how to build intimacy or look forward to the morning for his needs.
The aggressive middle finger in your face needs to stop. You need to explain to him he is a 31 year old man.
I hope this makes things clearer
Her parents suck too, to approve of a 30yo man to date their teenager, let alone get engaged! Wtaf?
OP,
When he introduced you to his children was the day that you entered into their life. By being with him and the children with out his Ex around makes you a sudo-family. So why not be invited to other events with their mother? If you end up marring this person, what might the kids think that you were excluded from events prior.
I have a feeling the ex is telling him to not invite you, and he is doing so to keep the peace, but in return his is alienating you which your coming to despise him. So he cannot have it both ways.
You need to talk to him and let him know what's up, or just walk away and let it go.
Next time she threatens divorce…just say “Ok…see you around, have a good life” and walk out the door. Then go no contact for a week….. take a vacation somewhere…. do something fun, enjoy yourself….but turn off your phone and ignore her completely….. Let her learn what her life is like without you in it.
Yes you are being silly. Go get a model that's move-in ready instead of a fucking fixer-upper