It's not pathetic. You are in a (presumably) monogamous, adult relationship. You have gone through medical treatment so that you can try to have a normal sex life and in response to that, the only person you are 'supposed' to have sex with is refusing to have sex with you. He is well within his rights to decline sex, but…He watches porn himself but tells you that you can't. He has no real answer as to why he won't have sex with you, he won't try to work on his feeble excuse of not liking condoms, you never mentioned whether he will do oral/hands because those don't require condoms (I'm assuming not), he just tells you he doesn't want to and that's that.
If you have talked to him about this and let him know that you are not okay with this arrangement and he STILL refuses to do anything there is two options – either you accept that you will not be able to explore your sexuality during your whole relationship until he one day (maybe) decides to, while simultaneously having him setting boundaries for you he doesn't abide by himself or you leave the relationship and find someone more compatible.
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It's not pathetic. You are in a (presumably) monogamous, adult relationship. You have gone through medical treatment so that you can try to have a normal sex life and in response to that, the only person you are 'supposed' to have sex with is refusing to have sex with you. He is well within his rights to decline sex, but…He watches porn himself but tells you that you can't. He has no real answer as to why he won't have sex with you, he won't try to work on his feeble excuse of not liking condoms, you never mentioned whether he will do oral/hands because those don't require condoms (I'm assuming not), he just tells you he doesn't want to and that's that.
If you have talked to him about this and let him know that you are not okay with this arrangement and he STILL refuses to do anything there is two options – either you accept that you will not be able to explore your sexuality during your whole relationship until he one day (maybe) decides to, while simultaneously having him setting boundaries for you he doesn't abide by himself or you leave the relationship and find someone more compatible.
Bro what? She cheated on you – it’s over.
Block her and move on.