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Also, I don’t want to go to the spa without being planned. I don’t shave my legs meticulously so if someone else is in my space or touching my I need to like shower and not be all work-stress-sweaty first.
Work to spa is the opposite of fun to me. Spa is for weekend when I’m already relaxed.
So why announce it? If you need time to think then just think. I wasn’t calling him, harassing him, or insisting to hang out. And why tell me we will meet up next Sunday to discuss it? I’m pretty sure I heard him say the word break bcuz that’s not even in my vocabulary. I never considered that an option in relationships. But because of the gaslighting I’m not even sure. But I know exactly what he said.
no, absolutely not. I commented elsewhere, we had a nice birthday, deciding to do a fancy dinner another night. But, in lieu of that I got her thoughtful gifts which she loved as well as baked her a cake.
Hi, former waitress here, that would be super fucking stressful for me.
Just because she's not off being superwoman doesn't mean her job isn't important. Clearly it's important to her, and probably to a lot of other people as well. It's disrespectful of you to dismiss what she does like that.
I feel immensely sorry for your boyfriend. There's a shit ton of stigma surrounding guys having mental health issues or seeking help for it. Your 'no comment' comment was beyond cruel, it's not a matter to joke around about, dismiss, judge or criticize someone over. It's probably burnt into his memory now and he's going to struggle even more reaching out for the help he needs, while you continue to criticize and bemoan his inaction even more. You're unbelievably dismissive and somehow surprised that he no longer wants to discuss his problems with you or accept help from you. This situation really requires tact, sensitivity, empathy and love; I'm not seeing it.
Too many red flags dude you are a literal doormat while she is out partyin with a nice hotel room to bring her fuckboys too. You need to move on she is cheating and if she isn't now she will when she finds someone she likes. The writing on the wall couldn't be more clear.
Is he single ? For once if not then I would stop talking to him if you wanna do all this with him.. now if he is single and you feel like he wants to kiss you or other things with you I would still not do it… he would probably feel like you want more and if your willing to loose that friendship then go for it just know there’s not going back
To clear up the timeline, We broke up 3 months ago No contact for 2 months She got SH 2 weeks ago We talked 3 days ago She went back to a bar 1 day ago
Your love for her is leading you into a very bad place and is keeping you in this relationship, a relationship that is just so incredibly bad for you. If you took away your emotional feeling for her, what exactly is there here to keep?
She is like everyone and yes, she has the capacity to heal and be great etc, etc, but why should she do at your expense?
You are quite literally setting yourself on fire to keep her warm and what's worse, she is barely acknowledging the burning smell.
So sorry OP, she is still incredibly toxic and it is slowly killing you.
You also said that it's weird that he's insistent she doesn't (it's not) and that it may be because he has a woman barber and is afraid she'll be jealous… which is a nutty assumption about a common practice
I think you’re both being ridiculous but even if you all had agreed on specific shelves, if there wasn’t room on yours you could have asked him if you could put it on his shelf. And I don’t think anyone should have to ask you if they can move your stuff if they need to rearrange and make space.
What you are describing is abuse. This behavior will not change.
I’m very frugal so spent some time in FI.RE communities. They are a magnet for abusive behavior. I read countless accounts from women complaining about how their husbands turned off the heat, locked away groceries, controlled access to money so they couldn’t leave, feed or clothe their children. Really disturbing behavior.
Set a boundary. My boyfriend did the same thing in front of me and I just told him “I don't care if you watch porn, but it feels disrespectful when I'm next to you”
If your husband is not receptive to this kind of boundary, I feel this relationship needs couples counselling
Also date someone that wants to take birth control…that shit is a nightmare though so Goodluck to any woman using it. I’m a raging bitch on that crap. Vasectomy is always an option…but just as shitty as birth control. Along with everything else y’all don’t agree on, why are you still together and then complaining on Reddit about it?? ?can’t make decisions for yourself??? You decided to stay with someone you aren’t compatible with but can’t decide to leave??? ???
Or perhaps I have self-respect. And I could talk about my history with women but what’s the point. You and I obviously have different viewpoints and see the situation differently. Let’s agree to disagree. The OP can make up their own mind.
Nope don't do it. The only closure you can get is that which you provide yourself: block him and start moving on without him in your life. There is zero need for an in-person conversation to “end things for good” unless you are secretly hoping it will open the door further.
Calling an adult woman a child is condescending beyond belief for her plus painting me as a pedophile for dating an adult is nothing more than idiotic. You call her a child, while acting as a child yourself.
If you dont have anything rational to add, please refrain from saying anything. I will not argue with you on such a childish level.
Also, I don’t want to go to the spa without being planned. I don’t shave my legs meticulously so if someone else is in my space or touching my I need to like shower and not be all work-stress-sweaty first.
Work to spa is the opposite of fun to me. Spa is for weekend when I’m already relaxed.
So why announce it? If you need time to think then just think. I wasn’t calling him, harassing him, or insisting to hang out. And why tell me we will meet up next Sunday to discuss it? I’m pretty sure I heard him say the word break bcuz that’s not even in my vocabulary. I never considered that an option in relationships. But because of the gaslighting I’m not even sure. But I know exactly what he said.
no, absolutely not. I commented elsewhere, we had a nice birthday, deciding to do a fancy dinner another night. But, in lieu of that I got her thoughtful gifts which she loved as well as baked her a cake.
Hi, former waitress here, that would be super fucking stressful for me.
Just because she's not off being superwoman doesn't mean her job isn't important. Clearly it's important to her, and probably to a lot of other people as well. It's disrespectful of you to dismiss what she does like that.
You bring me a cutting board while I'm sick in bed, and there's a really strong risk of you accidentally running into my knife ten times.
I feel immensely sorry for your boyfriend. There's a shit ton of stigma surrounding guys having mental health issues or seeking help for it. Your 'no comment' comment was beyond cruel, it's not a matter to joke around about, dismiss, judge or criticize someone over. It's probably burnt into his memory now and he's going to struggle even more reaching out for the help he needs, while you continue to criticize and bemoan his inaction even more. You're unbelievably dismissive and somehow surprised that he no longer wants to discuss his problems with you or accept help from you. This situation really requires tact, sensitivity, empathy and love; I'm not seeing it.
Too many red flags dude you are a literal doormat while she is out partyin with a nice hotel room to bring her fuckboys too. You need to move on she is cheating and if she isn't now she will when she finds someone she likes. The writing on the wall couldn't be more clear.
Is he single ? For once if not then I would stop talking to him if you wanna do all this with him.. now if he is single and you feel like he wants to kiss you or other things with you I would still not do it… he would probably feel like you want more and if your willing to loose that friendship then go for it just know there’s not going back
To clear up the timeline, We broke up 3 months ago No contact for 2 months She got SH 2 weeks ago We talked 3 days ago She went back to a bar 1 day ago
You’re right
This is not about her toxic past OP.
This is most definitely about her toxic present!
Your love for her is leading you into a very bad place and is keeping you in this relationship, a relationship that is just so incredibly bad for you. If you took away your emotional feeling for her, what exactly is there here to keep?
She is like everyone and yes, she has the capacity to heal and be great etc, etc, but why should she do at your expense?
You are quite literally setting yourself on fire to keep her warm and what's worse, she is barely acknowledging the burning smell.
So sorry OP, she is still incredibly toxic and it is slowly killing you.
You also said that it's weird that he's insistent she doesn't (it's not) and that it may be because he has a woman barber and is afraid she'll be jealous… which is a nutty assumption about a common practice
Why did he leave it out in the counter?
I think you’re both being ridiculous but even if you all had agreed on specific shelves, if there wasn’t room on yours you could have asked him if you could put it on his shelf. And I don’t think anyone should have to ask you if they can move your stuff if they need to rearrange and make space.
Boy these are some alarming beliefs
What a douche
What you are describing is abuse. This behavior will not change.
I’m very frugal so spent some time in FI.RE communities. They are a magnet for abusive behavior. I read countless accounts from women complaining about how their husbands turned off the heat, locked away groceries, controlled access to money so they couldn’t leave, feed or clothe their children. Really disturbing behavior.
He’s suddenly finding fault all the time?
I’d like to ask hubby how long he’s been cheating.
Set a boundary. My boyfriend did the same thing in front of me and I just told him “I don't care if you watch porn, but it feels disrespectful when I'm next to you”
If your husband is not receptive to this kind of boundary, I feel this relationship needs couples counselling
Also date someone that wants to take birth control…that shit is a nightmare though so Goodluck to any woman using it. I’m a raging bitch on that crap. Vasectomy is always an option…but just as shitty as birth control. Along with everything else y’all don’t agree on, why are you still together and then complaining on Reddit about it?? ?can’t make decisions for yourself??? You decided to stay with someone you aren’t compatible with but can’t decide to leave??? ???
It’s your birthday, not his. You are not friends with her, so don’t invite her.
Or perhaps I have self-respect. And I could talk about my history with women but what’s the point. You and I obviously have different viewpoints and see the situation differently. Let’s agree to disagree. The OP can make up their own mind.
Youre right. Thanks!
I had a bf just exactly like that. It doesn't stop. Ever. It doesn't matter what you say.
I started having this fantasy about just bashing him with his favorite cast iron skillet and saying, “aww, that didn't hurt.”
When I started thinking about doing it every single day, I knew it was past time to leave.
Don't let it get to that point. Just leave now. He has no respect for you or your body. It doesn't get better, it only gets worse.
Pics back to when you were 15 in a hidden folder? That's creepy as fuck honestly
What more is he supposed to say?
Talk to a lawyer asap. They'll explain all your options. Don't tell your fiancé.
Nope don't do it. The only closure you can get is that which you provide yourself: block him and start moving on without him in your life. There is zero need for an in-person conversation to “end things for good” unless you are secretly hoping it will open the door further.
Calling an adult woman a child is condescending beyond belief for her plus painting me as a pedophile for dating an adult is nothing more than idiotic. You call her a child, while acting as a child yourself.
If you dont have anything rational to add, please refrain from saying anything. I will not argue with you on such a childish level.
Samesies her. But they need a certain degree of quality.
Mine do have a heating function often also. And smell of lavender. 57 years old.
Plus one special collectors bear sitting behind glass.