I guess you need to think about why you're getting anxious and talk it over with your bf.
If it's not based on any realistic fear, remind yourself of that and use general anxiety methods such as mindfulness meditation to calm down.
Avoiding things we don't really need to fear just reinforces that fear. If it's feasible it might help to meet/get to know her a bit so she comes into perspective as just a person not a bf stealing monster.
Stop caring about how you come across and just tell the guy straight up that you're not interested in casual sex and that you dont go there unless you're in a committed relationship with a person.
Itll weed out the timewasters faster. Why worry if he thinks you're a prude. So what? I guarantee that every guy who is just in it for sex will assume you are a prude no matter what reasoning you give, so you might as well tell the truth. Its a perfectly good boundary for yourself, and if guys cant handle it, without resorting to name calling, that's their own self esteem problem. Be strong, have the courage of your own convictions, itll pay off.
The two times I have experienced opening a relationship it did not work out as intended, both in not-so good ways that eventually lead to the downfall of the relationship. There were other factors at play you didn’t mention so I know they are different situations but things like this have a way of having a ton of unintended consequences that you and even her can’t predict. Some of the related jealousy issues can’t really be understood until their felt, and often by then it might be too late. If you do this, understand that it may very well lead to a negative outcome… that is at least as likely as it actually working out, if not more so. Truly examine your motivation and reasoning for wanting to go forward with this, might just accepting your sexual incompatibility and just leaving be a better option for both of you?
I'm confused, you have several significant other ? who's them or they ?
She’s checking out of the relationship because she wants to get married and you don’t. That’s pretty obvious
I guess you need to think about why you're getting anxious and talk it over with your bf.
If it's not based on any realistic fear, remind yourself of that and use general anxiety methods such as mindfulness meditation to calm down.
Avoiding things we don't really need to fear just reinforces that fear. If it's feasible it might help to meet/get to know her a bit so she comes into perspective as just a person not a bf stealing monster.
Stop caring about how you come across and just tell the guy straight up that you're not interested in casual sex and that you dont go there unless you're in a committed relationship with a person.
Itll weed out the timewasters faster. Why worry if he thinks you're a prude. So what? I guarantee that every guy who is just in it for sex will assume you are a prude no matter what reasoning you give, so you might as well tell the truth. Its a perfectly good boundary for yourself, and if guys cant handle it, without resorting to name calling, that's their own self esteem problem. Be strong, have the courage of your own convictions, itll pay off.
The two times I have experienced opening a relationship it did not work out as intended, both in not-so good ways that eventually lead to the downfall of the relationship. There were other factors at play you didn’t mention so I know they are different situations but things like this have a way of having a ton of unintended consequences that you and even her can’t predict. Some of the related jealousy issues can’t really be understood until their felt, and often by then it might be too late. If you do this, understand that it may very well lead to a negative outcome… that is at least as likely as it actually working out, if not more so. Truly examine your motivation and reasoning for wanting to go forward with this, might just accepting your sexual incompatibility and just leaving be a better option for both of you?
WTF is wrong with you? You do not need an apology you actually need to run and call the police.