The first 7 or 8 times I was molested as a kid, it hurt when I'd get near orgasm because I was too young to be being used for such actions. The act didn't suck, the peak sucked, so I just focused on not feeling anything.
It depends on how old you are if you can enjoy it. Pre ball drop it hurts, your spine locks up, whole body aches, ears feel like a rpg went off inside your skull.
Now unfortunately I have compression at 27, I was drugged at a concert, I couldn't move, but was conscious. I didn't want to, was pissed, I wouldn't let it get up….. didn't stop it from going up once she started oral.
It's hot to say what one man feels is how all men will, but I can guarantee all people male or female shouldn't know.
Obviously you respect her choice, as you said. But also, you have a choice. Namely, it’s up to you whether this is a deal breaker for the relationship. We can’t decide that for you, but I’ll share what’s worked for me.
I grew up with the expectation that I should wait for marriage. My parents did. But after a lot of reflection, I decided that I am so thorough in researching/testing anything before I commit to it, from new jeans to cars to housing. Why would the most important commitment of my life be something I approach with less thoroughness than those things?!
So I decided it was important to me to experience sex before marriage. And I’m glad I did. It helped me discover what I like and need, and what I don’t. It helped me become more independent and assertive. It’s also important to get to know that side of your partner before you commit to them for life. And if you’re the type to get fomo, you can reduce that risk by having sex with a few partners before settling down. You wouldn’t want those doubts to creep in later!
Now that I’m in my mid-thirties, having been with several sexual partners, I’m happily engaged and excited to commit to this man for life. No reservations whatsoever, because I know exactly who he is in many contexts, including in bed. So that’s worked great for me!
You’ll have to find what feels right for you. I hope you’ll take the time to think, talk, journal, etc. about this and figure out what you need. Be honest with yourself so you can be honest with your girlfriend, and any other partners you may have.
It’s also OK if your opinion changes over time. This is a period in your life when you’ll experience a lot and change a lot. Just keep checking in with yourself about it, and keep in mind that there are many ways to be. You just have to do what’s best for you!
Question do you also think having social graces and using etiquette is outdated?
I think they're more important today than ever before, as people have become more selfish.
I'm just over here like, ??♀️??♀️
The first 7 or 8 times I was molested as a kid, it hurt when I'd get near orgasm because I was too young to be being used for such actions. The act didn't suck, the peak sucked, so I just focused on not feeling anything.
It depends on how old you are if you can enjoy it. Pre ball drop it hurts, your spine locks up, whole body aches, ears feel like a rpg went off inside your skull.
Now unfortunately I have compression at 27, I was drugged at a concert, I couldn't move, but was conscious. I didn't want to, was pissed, I wouldn't let it get up….. didn't stop it from going up once she started oral.
It's hot to say what one man feels is how all men will, but I can guarantee all people male or female shouldn't know.
Obviously you respect her choice, as you said. But also, you have a choice. Namely, it’s up to you whether this is a deal breaker for the relationship. We can’t decide that for you, but I’ll share what’s worked for me.
I grew up with the expectation that I should wait for marriage. My parents did. But after a lot of reflection, I decided that I am so thorough in researching/testing anything before I commit to it, from new jeans to cars to housing. Why would the most important commitment of my life be something I approach with less thoroughness than those things?!
So I decided it was important to me to experience sex before marriage. And I’m glad I did. It helped me discover what I like and need, and what I don’t. It helped me become more independent and assertive. It’s also important to get to know that side of your partner before you commit to them for life. And if you’re the type to get fomo, you can reduce that risk by having sex with a few partners before settling down. You wouldn’t want those doubts to creep in later!
Now that I’m in my mid-thirties, having been with several sexual partners, I’m happily engaged and excited to commit to this man for life. No reservations whatsoever, because I know exactly who he is in many contexts, including in bed. So that’s worked great for me!
You’ll have to find what feels right for you. I hope you’ll take the time to think, talk, journal, etc. about this and figure out what you need. Be honest with yourself so you can be honest with your girlfriend, and any other partners you may have.
It’s also OK if your opinion changes over time. This is a period in your life when you’ll experience a lot and change a lot. Just keep checking in with yourself about it, and keep in mind that there are many ways to be. You just have to do what’s best for you!
We don’t need anymore community dick. Tell her.