The responsibility is on her to tell the “friend” about our relationship. If he knows and doesn’t respect the relationship then she’s letting that happen. If he isn’t aware, that’s equally concerning.
Well I wasn’t invited at all. Not like am looking forward to go but the courtesy..
Definitely take some time to be single. You have a whole lifetime ahead for love. Don't rush it. Don't accept ridiculous behavior. Hold out for someone who is decent, faithful, kind, and has similar values and goals as yourself. That kind of love is worth the wait. I speak from experience.
What's his solution to the “unfairness” of it all? Does he want you to quit and work part time for minimum wage? Or does he want to and is actively trying to secure a better position for himself? If it's #1 dump him, #2 support him looking for new employment. Not financially, emotionally. Don't support him financially.
Because this isn't the update they were hoping for. They wanted OP's gf to say “my cat is my god!” And break up with him so they can add more comments about how they love their cats more than anything on earth and would do the same.
If you don’t have time for a girlfriend, then end the relationship. It’s not unreasonable for her to also want to be a priority to you to spend time doing things with her. Do you actually do things together willingly spending quality time together?
I thought it sounded suspicious at first too – but he has a genuine reason for doing it and if its on your phone anything he does is going to be completely transparent. I can't help you with how you feel about this but it does seem to be a reasonable request and he is being understanding of any concerns you might have.
My mom also used me as her best friend in inappropriate ways.
I don’t have the perfect solution, but I can tell you that you aren’t wrong to be exhausted or overwhelmed by this.
Do you feel like you can talk to him? If he’s trustworthy and he cares about your feelings, I might try being plain with him: being bombarded with negative stuff that I’m not involved with is really overwhelming for me.
If that’s not in the cards, I think it’s fair (at 19) to say, “I really need to decompress for an hour after school.” Take that time for yourself. Put him on mute during the day.
Whatever you choose to do in terms of pushback, don’t let his glum behavior after you try to establish a boundary for yourself guilt you into giving in. He can have his feelings, that’s fine, even if they are sad feelings. You also deserve to protect your emotional health.
If you want to keep your house as your house and not yours and hers, maybe you should reconsider letting her move in.
You leave the MARRIED woman the fuck alone. ?♂️
Ask her to suggest the time to suit. At some point she has to have some agency here, if she doesn’t she’s not that interested anyway.
The responsibility is on her to tell the “friend” about our relationship. If he knows and doesn’t respect the relationship then she’s letting that happen. If he isn’t aware, that’s equally concerning.
Well I wasn’t invited at all. Not like am looking forward to go but the courtesy..
Definitely take some time to be single. You have a whole lifetime ahead for love. Don't rush it. Don't accept ridiculous behavior. Hold out for someone who is decent, faithful, kind, and has similar values and goals as yourself. That kind of love is worth the wait. I speak from experience.
What's his solution to the “unfairness” of it all? Does he want you to quit and work part time for minimum wage? Or does he want to and is actively trying to secure a better position for himself? If it's #1 dump him, #2 support him looking for new employment. Not financially, emotionally. Don't support him financially.
Because this isn't the update they were hoping for. They wanted OP's gf to say “my cat is my god!” And break up with him so they can add more comments about how they love their cats more than anything on earth and would do the same.
If you don’t have time for a girlfriend, then end the relationship. It’s not unreasonable for her to also want to be a priority to you to spend time doing things with her. Do you actually do things together willingly spending quality time together?
I thought it sounded suspicious at first too – but he has a genuine reason for doing it and if its on your phone anything he does is going to be completely transparent. I can't help you with how you feel about this but it does seem to be a reasonable request and he is being understanding of any concerns you might have.
My mom also used me as her best friend in inappropriate ways.
I don’t have the perfect solution, but I can tell you that you aren’t wrong to be exhausted or overwhelmed by this.
Do you feel like you can talk to him? If he’s trustworthy and he cares about your feelings, I might try being plain with him: being bombarded with negative stuff that I’m not involved with is really overwhelming for me.
If that’s not in the cards, I think it’s fair (at 19) to say, “I really need to decompress for an hour after school.” Take that time for yourself. Put him on mute during the day.
Whatever you choose to do in terms of pushback, don’t let his glum behavior after you try to establish a boundary for yourself guilt you into giving in. He can have his feelings, that’s fine, even if they are sad feelings. You also deserve to protect your emotional health.