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Date: October 5, 2022
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If I was him, I’d want to know. If I was you, I’d want to tell him why it’s not going to work out (because he might be wondering many things). You are not obligated of course but expect some retaliation from his mum if you do, which at some point you could consider filing a restraining order depending on the harassment
You are absolute trash and I hope she leaves you
I'd want to get back with her but don't want her to continue working in that job. She says that I'm selfish because is her career.
You should grow a spine and divorce this serial cheater. She's walking all over you and playing you for an idiot.
Seriously… those poor children. I hope OP's partner sees this and leaves her.
You do know I’m reading every comment please don’t talk like I’m not here. I’ve had one weak moment in this relationship.
I think that this is a conversation you need to have with your partner. Somehow I doubt he even thought you'd apply his judgment of himself to yourself as well. I think he probably was just being hyper critical of himself in that moment. But that reassurance needs to come from him, not us.
I hate that she felt comfortable enough to say that to your bf?If it helps, anytime a girl has called me “ugly”, “unattractive”, “snobby” or a “bitch” it’s because of jealousy. As for your bf, your edit says he disavowed the exclusivity of your relationship so ditch that fool. Life is too precious to beg ppl to love you.
A simple heads up would be enough beforehand would be enough. If the OP demanded more after that, then yeah I'd understand. Do women appreciate their SOs withholding information too? It may just sound like memes at times but sometimes they do ask if not demand to see their bf's phones. I remember a meme image of a guy putting his phone upside down on the restaurant table and the woman accusing him of hiding his potential hookups. The guy clarified it was to give her his undivided attention.
It's up to her whether she has the kid. Do not continue trying to convince her to abort.
Tell her clearly and directly that you won't be resuming a romantic relationship with her regardless of whether she has the child or not, and you aren't interested in co-parenting (assuming that's the case) but will meet your legal obligations for child support. Then wait to see if a baby is born and if she subsequently files for support.
It is also okay to ask for a paternity test befoe paying for support.
You said you already know he finds you attractive. Are you asking if he finds you extra attractive? What advice are you requesting on your relationship with your boss? There's one person who can interpret what such a gift means, and chances are he's not looking at this sub right this moment.
Please, please review your basic biology. They are going to need a sperm donor no matter whose egg they use.
Good lord.
So, for starters, your immediate response to seek professional help is to ask if I think you’re crazy makes me question your age because anyone who’s an actual grown up with common sense surely doesn’t think therapy is for those who are crazy. But what do I know, you could be a boomer or just have a really antiquated view of looking at the world.
Anyway, moving on, I really just have to wonder what quite all is right up there in your mind not only to let someone who “loves you” steal from you, but to give shit to anyone smartly and rightly suggests leaving them.
Why bother here? You clearly don’t like the responses. You clearly don’t want to leave your man. You clearly don’t feel like this is something noteworthy to leave over. I pity the fool who scoffs at being robbed for 4k. Which is exactly what has happened to you and you care but not enough to do anything about it.
You sit here and call rudeness on anyone who’s direct or gives you answers that aren’t “oh love him”, “oh just look away” or “oh he’s a good guy”. This isn’t a loaf of bread from the grocery store to provide for your hungry family. This is four thousand dollars that he won’t ever give you back. And rather than sue him for what is rightfully yours, you’d rather call foul on every one of us here actually giving you advice.
Whatever, it’s not my business, but surely you see the irony of posting here right? It’s like a red flashing sign. Idk what your problems are or how fucked up in the head you are, but I hope you learn to love yourself enough to call foul when you’re being wronged and I hope you care enough about what happens to you in the future, because right now you don’t have that going for you. But yeah, I sure do think you’re crazy.
She is already over you. She probably has a sneaky link behind your back that she is secretly cultivating into your replacement.
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This prompted me to do some googling–I'd heard about some of the things but I'd forgotten about them. Put all together like that…sigh. Dammit. They make my favorite perfume (Dolce) and I'm almost out of it. Gonna have to find a place that makes dupes.
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He’s probably having a nude time making new friends because they are actual mature people so he wants to go back to his immature friends who cover for his affairs.
The approach is strange. Honestly, probably a good idea if you leave this one alone. I foresee other problems in the future, best to avoid them.
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Ah, ok, so if you’ve been a bit timid, this sounds like maybe the issue is that you’re a bit of a people pleaser. What that means is that you put other first sometimes at your expense. But that can sometimes lead to things becoming even more frustrating, which leads to resentment and explosions of frustration. So for this situation take some ownership that you might not have been as clear about how much it affects you and that can lessen the anger you feel directed at her. Then tell her how much the cats are affecting your sleep and ask to discuss other options that you both can be comfortable with.
get over it, or idk. have a conversation with your gf?
Cut these so-called friends and your former BFF out of your life. They have no integrity and can never be trusted. You can do better.
You are both 28 years old. Honestly you sound like 16 year olds.
Honest advice? Because “just get over it” is easier said than done. I would say “look for an ick.”
Everyone has SOMETHING they do that is super unattractive and is the sort of thing that you might be willing to overlook if you already love them, but are sort of gross to learn about if you're not. I invited a “couple” over to my house in early days for dinner, and after she saw how he ate a piece of chicken she was just so revolted by the way he was eating it that she couldn't imagine anything further with him–and every time she saw him after that she thought about the chicken.
Look for an ick. I personally find flirting with someone in a subordinate position while married to already be pretty ick-y, but if that's not enough, I highly suggest looking for something gross.
You didn't do anything wrong OP , you tried to do something nice for her and she shit all over you for it and showed zero gratitude (which is the very least she could have shown). Most people would be pretty excited to get leave early and go to the spa and pamper themselves but for whatever reason she was in a mood and decided to ruin it as much as she could. If it really bothered her she should have said “take me home I do not want to go” instead of making you both suffer through her tantrum. I think it was highly disrespectful of you and your good intentions and it wouldn't have been a big stretch for her to at least thank you for the evening. Its just sad she instead decided to act like a child and not communicate what is going on with her instead she blame-shifts you for some weird reason because she can't just say what is really bothering her out loud. I would have just canceled everything and taken her home if my GF had been throwing that kind of attitude at me after doing something so nice for her.
This is my quarrel with myself. It’s a very difficult tho bc that I’ve just brought up offhandedly in conversation. I knew it wouldn’t be easy to hear but I just didn’t think about the ramifications at the time (thank you alcohol). And now I feel like I’ve tainted a very special relationship and great sexual dynamic.
I do initiate, but I definitely need to do it more. Thanks for providing your very real perspective.
This is my quarrel with myself. It’s a very difficult tho bc that I’ve just brought up offhandedly in conversation. I knew it wouldn’t be easy to hear but I just didn’t think about the ramifications at the time (thank you alcohol). And now I feel like I’ve tainted a very special relationship and great sexual dynamic.
I do initiate, but I definitely need to do it more. Thanks for providing your very real perspective.
Was the hammer to hand or did she have to go get it?
Was the hammer to hand or did she have to go get it?
Y’all really calling me outtttt ?????. Thank you though. Glad to get this perspective
Sounds like he needs therapy to figure out why he's replaying former disagreements in his head so often.
If he remembered something he forgot to say previously and wants to bring it up, he should be able to do that without starting a new fight. When he brings things up, is he kind and loving and then things escalate? If so, maybe you need to try self reflection. If he's just upset right off the bat, then that's on him. He should be able to communicate his feelings without fighting.
Until you can make the decision whether or not to push a fully formed human being you of your genitals, your opinion actually doesn't matter as much. It sucks when you get hurt in the process, but you can't control what a person does with their body.
It's perfectly normal for a couple to want a 2 bedroom place, that's not an uncommon thing at all. However if he's the one insisting, and you genuinely can't afford it, then he needs to either pay the extra money, be ok with a one bedroom, or come up with some other kind of compromise-like you pay 50/50 but he takes care of all the utilities or something like that. I'd be concerned about him wanting you to give up a career you love though.
Go to HR
Well I think when you were in college, it would have been a great idea not have a child with this loser especially after seeing him text random girls on campus like a horn monkey. I think you should feel guilty for staying with this man longer than you know you should have.
You listed all the reason you don’t love him and it’s clear we all want you to leave this man you call a husband.
He wants sex with her. He doesn't really care about her or you, but he finds her hard and wants to bang her.
Like I said he told her he's going out for dinner and dodnt even talk to her
Because she respects herself enough to not have casual sex with someone who doesn't actually respect her. Again, unlike you.
Ok that's good. Just keep what I said in mind. You're never under obligation to keep following a partner's on-line accounts. It's your choice. Not theirs.
You go from saying he shouldn't be told this because it is rare, to a 0% argument. Do you know where OP lives? Do you know the conviction rates and sentencing limits there? If either of those answers are no, then you can not claim what you are claiming. Your argument over these people's “possibility” with your absolute “zero” is ridiculous. Nobody said there is a high probability of conviction or jail time, you are arguing for the sake of arguing.
Sounds like you're wasting your time talking about it with her. It will continue this way or you need to dump her.
I'm an emo girl who married a metalhead/emo. I guess I all find this very odd and it feels a little condescending but I can't quite put my finger on why.
I see a few things here…
Do you actually have things in common? Do you look/act like someone who may have inflicted trauma in formative teen years? Is this some sort of quarter life crisis or like you trying to date someone exotic? Are you part of these subcultures? Do you attempt to be? Do you want to be? Is this some veiled “how do I be a 30 year old emo?” post? If so, I got answers. What is motivating this? Just trying to fit in?
All the alt dudes I know have dated, slept with, and in some cases married, people of all types (alt or otherwise).
Also adding. Alt culture is heavily wrapped up in the music associated. That could be a component- but that all stopped mattering when we were 22. Just as long as the culture was respected.
I'm also a pot shop manager. Stoners come in all shapes and sizes and subcultures. The teams I've managed in my cannabis career are far more diverse than anything I managed in the decade prior. And that includes their consumption and their partners consumption.
So. I don't know exactly.
I told him I feel objectified. And because he watches me through a screen he doesn’t think of me as a real person with feelings, just an actor.
Move on. None of that sounds like it is going to lead to happy healthy relationship.
Modern dating is exhausting.
Revisionist.
Also, leave that place.
Thank you for answering
Possibly. I'm not a nofap bro, never been. But decided to try it after years of daily masturbation.
The sexual tension I have from day to day is enormous. But I find that it drives me to do something with it. Because of being pet up, I end up hitting the gym alot more than I normally would.
I caved after 3 months. But the gym had become routine and it's a habit I now have. I realize I find it harder to motivate myself to hit the gym on days after watching porn.
Nofap bros exaggerate the “science” like any other broscience venture. But it's worked for me. Pent up sexual energy = more drive to do shit that will get me laid.
Try this one. “I don't really feel like getting a surgery. Maybe take the pill?”
There are quite a few different ways to do birth control that don't involve surgical procedures.
Jesus Christ. It’s hardly permanent. HE CAN FREEZE HIS SPERM INDEFINITELY. I love how everyone just keeps ignoring this.
And it’s not coercion. It’s asking him to take on part of the burden that she has taken on the entire fucking time.
No it is the main question. If you don't feel safe you stay in the relationship?
Tell her no – that is a not a reasonable request. You can support her remotely if you like.
OP, I’m sorry to say this but you’ve fallen for one of oldest tricks in the book. No matter how much they claim they want it, never emotionally open up to your girlfriend/fiancée/wife. Women will never admit this, but they are not attracted to emotionally vulnerable men. Women want a man who they perceive as being stoic and in control of their emotions, and there is no easier way to shatter that perception than by crying in front of her. It’s a strong possibility that she lost some attraction to you the moment she saw you cry.
Instead of looking at it as sacrifices look at it as a new beginning for what will be a lifetime of memories and joy with your child and one day u will look back and thank god u both were united
It’s disrespectful… one of the Uber policies the driver can report incidents like these like girls gets nude in the car or any inappropriate behaves …. Plus this will never hurt his rate so bad if he just stop that inappropriate behavior. I’ve had many incidents like these and never allowed them . And my rate was pretty good .
The real question here, OP
Sounds like less drinking might help the relationship
He’s never going to forgive you because of HIS hang ups.
This is an easy way for him to absolve himself of any wrongdoing according to his beliefs. You’re an easy target because you are there. You’re a woman so naturally you are Eve who caused the downfall of Adam by tempting him.
He sounds like a repressed douche and your relationship is now no longer equal or healthy.
Oh please. He does not read that shit he just pretends to cause hes got a tree the size of General Sherman up his ass. Hes just a fake pretentious asshole.
Ild tell him to go fuck off.
I wish my parents would have gotten a divorce sooner. Can’t have a happy home with out a happy marriage.
Why did you let him move in with you? He working paying rent?
From reading this it seems like he cares about you and is just trying to help. I'm not sure what's led you to conclude that he's a “narcissist”. Have you considered whether there's anyone else you can talk with about the challenges you're facing?
“…controlling, possessive, hostile and needy…” if this was the problem, then I think it might have been a test of how you are coping.
How tf should anyone here know what he's going to find appealing? Especially with no information about the relationship. If you are generally a straightforward person and he has said he likes that, odds are in your favor but I gotta say that you being here, second guessing it and asking strangers for validation doesn't exactly scream confidence.
Hah. Maybe none at all? That way you can see if it's you or the cologne you wore last time.
I was going to say this as well…on larger trips, I do carefully go through my wardrobe. I also ensure I look good…my hair is freshly cut/colored , tan, etc. it dawned on me that this is how I could be perceived as my work trips are usually with all men..some single, some married.
I think the difference is the communication, and I think that is the biggest part to focus on. No matter how busy I am, I will still text periodically throughout the day (less than usual) and call at night and sometimes in the morning.
Yes, sometimes you are exhausted as there are vendor dinners, remaining work, and you are ready to crash…but how nude was it for him to text to see if she was up?
She’s a liar, my dude.
the parents are dead. when im referring to the nude times that they got each other through, im referring primarily to the deaths of their parents. im not taking this to the maury show but i have no doubt it is his acrual sister
You shouldn't be with people that have unresolved attachments like that. He was important enough to ghost you at one point, and to thus day he is more important to her than you. She still refuses to commit to you exactly ecause of that. Refusal to introduce you to her friends is just of symptoms of that.
I am sorry, but it is better for you to break up with her.
This is bigger than you and her…you have a child to think about. Do you really want your child to be raised in such a toxic household where their parents treat each other like shit. Or worse what happens when the negativity turns from your direction to your child.
At this time you need to figure out a way to get yourself and you child away. Talk to some divorce attorneys asap and figure this out for your child's sake.
As I told another poster, I would approach him and give a clear defined date of when you would like to get married by, and explain to him why marriage is important to you, give him time to think about it and let him respond. If he is still doesn't have an answer for you, this is where you put your foot down and say you will not remain in a relationship where marriage is not part of the plan, remind him how important it is to you and that you will not force him to marry you, but you want to be with someone who shares the same vision for the future. Give him more time to think, and if he still doesn't have an answer and a plan to MARRY YOU, not just get on a knee, actually marry you…Walk away, and walk away fast because the likelihood of him changing his mind is slim to none.
I am not going to state the obvious, but this is a reality, if a man doesn't want to marry you, there is NOTHING you can do to get them to change their mind, and this is assuming you are actively doing what is required to present yourself as Biblically wife material. I will also add this, many men are going to feel more than comfortable being unmarried and simply on-line together, after all, if you're giving them all the benefits of a wife without the commitment, why would they change the dynamic? Him talking about money is merely a diversion to hopefully make you drop the topic.
For not actually being in love or knowing what love really is, you sure use that word alot
This is an example of a bad therapist. There is something wrong with the boyfriend, therapy is supposed to open your eyes to a different perspective and offering tools to help you change or make yourself better, it is not for you to take every word as literal truth. Also if after two years, he is sharing things with the therapist that he could not trust to share with you, something is really wrong here. He needs a new one. Also if you want to stay together, you do need couples counseling, you need to be heard in your relationship. If he won’t go with you, then you have your answer.