The foundation of my relationship starts with respect, open communication, trust, and honesty. If my partner cheated, absolutely every aspect of the foundation would be compromised. Healing from that betrayal would require years of solid effort from both of us with a therapist.
I don't know your process to get to where you are today but do you think your foundation is solid? Your reasons for going back matter. Have you healed and both re-committed in a way that you know with all your being that they hold true? Or are you giving in and accepting this happening again in order to say you've moved on and try to get back what you once had?
My fear with your example is the repetitive nature of it. Some people are serial cheaters. What is different about this time that makes you thing he is trustworthy? Your night of “a million insecurities” suggests you don't trust him. Is this something you are willing to go through again? Are you willing to put your children through it again? They know when their mom is hurting.
Love is about nurturing each other's growth. You deserve love, respect, honesty, and a healthy relationship. Whichever way you decide to go, please choose these things for yourself and your children.
The foundation of my relationship starts with respect, open communication, trust, and honesty. If my partner cheated, absolutely every aspect of the foundation would be compromised. Healing from that betrayal would require years of solid effort from both of us with a therapist.
I don't know your process to get to where you are today but do you think your foundation is solid? Your reasons for going back matter. Have you healed and both re-committed in a way that you know with all your being that they hold true? Or are you giving in and accepting this happening again in order to say you've moved on and try to get back what you once had?
My fear with your example is the repetitive nature of it. Some people are serial cheaters. What is different about this time that makes you thing he is trustworthy? Your night of “a million insecurities” suggests you don't trust him. Is this something you are willing to go through again? Are you willing to put your children through it again? They know when their mom is hurting.
Love is about nurturing each other's growth. You deserve love, respect, honesty, and a healthy relationship. Whichever way you decide to go, please choose these things for yourself and your children.
Thank for you gentle response ppl are eating me alive.