I see. May I ask why? I would say that from our relationship is pretty clear to me that there's no interest between us. I mean, almost half the time we speak she's telling me about some guy she's been fucking recently. Doesn't sound like flirting to me
You sound unhappy and you should probably break up with her.
That said, it takes more effort for women to have an orgasm than it does for men. If you’re having an orgasm from penetrative sex, but she is not (which is likely), you can’t say she isn’t doing anything for you.
Ok so we’ve established you are her personal doormat. Hopefully at some point you grow and actual backbone. But it seems unlikely. She will cheat on you over and over. Have fun with those leftovers.
The finances get a bit sticky. We were in a really tight spot, mixed with being young and dumb too, and I opened several credit cards in my name during the pandemic because we both got laid off and had to live somehow. Do you suggest I just keep all of this debt? Thank you for the advice.
Is there a chance that agreeing to not drink to save money is because bf thinks you drink too much? Because if I’d asked my partner to cut drinking, and said “and it will also save money” and they started doing what you were doing with just the excuse of “oh but it doesn’t cost a lot” I’d not be happy either.
I find it impossible to miss a connecting flight just because they’re getting food. It could be that they intended to extend their stay in that city together.
I don’t know you but did you just accept the not many other options excuse if he can stay in a hotel room near the airport? Ask him if the sleeping arrangement with the family friend. Have they shared room or even bed? Was the stay extended over the weekend or just for a night? Check if it’s possible to see when the flight rebooking was made. Was it done after they missed the flight or prior?
You definitely need individual and couples counseling. You may also want to consider sobriety, and if that seems very hot and upsetting to you, then I would suggest it even more strongly.
I’m also not sure if either of you actually want a monogamous relationship? Why did you close the relationship when you were still interested in other people?
Some guys are okay with this and some aren't, and it can be for a variety of reasons. I think you'll just quite simply have to talk to him about it and tell him how it makes you feel disrespected.
Think of it this way, would you be happy having a bf who was fucking another woman behind your back? Because that is exactly what he was doing to you when he went home to his wife. Trust me, I know, I was the wife who was in a very sexual relationship with her husband whilst he was cheating. Do you want a partner who has great sex with another woman, a life with another woman, but at the same time has no respect for anyone? He’s a pathetic loser, but what’s more pathetic is tolerating that behaviour.
Working on it. My abuser put me 10k in debt, micromanages my life, and so on. The first out I find I’m going to take.
I see. May I ask why? I would say that from our relationship is pretty clear to me that there's no interest between us. I mean, almost half the time we speak she's telling me about some guy she's been fucking recently. Doesn't sound like flirting to me
You sound unhappy and you should probably break up with her.
That said, it takes more effort for women to have an orgasm than it does for men. If you’re having an orgasm from penetrative sex, but she is not (which is likely), you can’t say she isn’t doing anything for you.
Because if this happens with something as simple as a hobby, what happens with things later in life? If this isn’t addressed, it will get a lot worse.
Ok so we’ve established you are her personal doormat. Hopefully at some point you grow and actual backbone. But it seems unlikely. She will cheat on you over and over. Have fun with those leftovers.
cat > man
Trying my hardest to make it my main focus. I’m 100% stressed about this exam. Thank you for the advice.
The finances get a bit sticky. We were in a really tight spot, mixed with being young and dumb too, and I opened several credit cards in my name during the pandemic because we both got laid off and had to live somehow. Do you suggest I just keep all of this debt? Thank you for the advice.
Dump his ass, you are beautiful with or without the tummy tuck
Dude… that's an infection waiting to happen. No back to front.
Is there a chance that agreeing to not drink to save money is because bf thinks you drink too much? Because if I’d asked my partner to cut drinking, and said “and it will also save money” and they started doing what you were doing with just the excuse of “oh but it doesn’t cost a lot” I’d not be happy either.
Leave and find someone who respects your boundaries and listens to you. Thats what you do.
I find it impossible to miss a connecting flight just because they’re getting food. It could be that they intended to extend their stay in that city together.
I don’t know you but did you just accept the not many other options excuse if he can stay in a hotel room near the airport? Ask him if the sleeping arrangement with the family friend. Have they shared room or even bed? Was the stay extended over the weekend or just for a night? Check if it’s possible to see when the flight rebooking was made. Was it done after they missed the flight or prior?
You definitely need individual and couples counseling. You may also want to consider sobriety, and if that seems very hot and upsetting to you, then I would suggest it even more strongly.
I’m also not sure if either of you actually want a monogamous relationship? Why did you close the relationship when you were still interested in other people?
So ask her to be in a relationship… if you won't take her seriously she will find a man who will.
Some guys are okay with this and some aren't, and it can be for a variety of reasons. I think you'll just quite simply have to talk to him about it and tell him how it makes you feel disrespected.
Think of it this way, would you be happy having a bf who was fucking another woman behind your back? Because that is exactly what he was doing to you when he went home to his wife. Trust me, I know, I was the wife who was in a very sexual relationship with her husband whilst he was cheating. Do you want a partner who has great sex with another woman, a life with another woman, but at the same time has no respect for anyone? He’s a pathetic loser, but what’s more pathetic is tolerating that behaviour.
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Okay guys, my app goes broken, so I can’t really reply… let’s pretend like he is not a catfish. What about this situation