All of these posts are so useless, only seeing one person's side of the story and all the comments biased towards it. Why this is even a subreddit at this point is beyond me. Sure everyone, believe every word of a post on the internet and get worked up about it, the most cringe of shit
Keeping yourself in a victimhood mentality isn't helping you. According to your own post, the two of you weren't exclusive. According to your own comment, he said the right before that y'all weren't exclusive. He didn't cheat. Now if you want a monogamous relationship, that is fine but you need to be with someone that feels the same and has that same boundary. It isn't fair to either of you for you to expect a monogamous relationship when it isn't.
You need to do what makes you happy. Follow your passion and on-line your joy. There are others out there not fixated on the future, who are willing to live in the present.
I asked what you've done to rebuild the trust, if I have to check your phone, rifle through your accounts and stuff to make sure you're not cheating again, well that's not exactly trust is it?
Especially when you could just as easily have a burner phone.
Have you read any books on healing after infidelity, are you in marriage counselling? What about individual counselling? Or did you just give her your passwords and sit on your arse expecting her to get over everything?
His actions are your answers.
All of these posts are so useless, only seeing one person's side of the story and all the comments biased towards it. Why this is even a subreddit at this point is beyond me. Sure everyone, believe every word of a post on the internet and get worked up about it, the most cringe of shit
He could be the one. Did he post them?
Keeping yourself in a victimhood mentality isn't helping you. According to your own post, the two of you weren't exclusive. According to your own comment, he said the right before that y'all weren't exclusive. He didn't cheat. Now if you want a monogamous relationship, that is fine but you need to be with someone that feels the same and has that same boundary. It isn't fair to either of you for you to expect a monogamous relationship when it isn't.
You need to do what makes you happy. Follow your passion and on-line your joy. There are others out there not fixated on the future, who are willing to live in the present.
I agree with this. Doesn’t hurt to ask but don’t chase someone who’s taken.
I asked what you've done to rebuild the trust, if I have to check your phone, rifle through your accounts and stuff to make sure you're not cheating again, well that's not exactly trust is it?
Especially when you could just as easily have a burner phone.
Have you read any books on healing after infidelity, are you in marriage counselling? What about individual counselling? Or did you just give her your passwords and sit on your arse expecting her to get over everything?
So she's a pre-cheater too, got it.