I love the comments telling a 21-year-old who barely has life experience that she shouldn’t have moved in with an alcoholic. She had no idea he had a problem and is reaching out for advice, and some of y’all come back with “My advice is to get a DeLorean to fly back in time and try a do over.” Thanks, Doc, not helpful at all and pretty shortsighted to boot.
OP, now that you’re more aware of the scope of the problem, listen to the commenters providing valid, resourceful advice. You’re about to face some rocky roads ahead, but I wish you both the best.
Well it’s not like you’re hitler incarnate here, but it also would not have killed you to use your words like an adult. The anger is oozing off of you here, I wouldn’t be surprised if you gave off a very angry vibe without realizing it then, and it is rude to act that way to a guest. All you had to say was, “I wish that I could talk longer, but I feel ill with a headache and need to rest. Have a fun visit!”
Part of growing up is learning to grin and bear it through social pressures, and learning how to politely bow out when that’s impossible. ESH but why is it getting blown up still into a big thing? Did you double down and not admit that her point was valid, or did she not accept your apology and explanation? This shouldn’t be a big deal, but one or both of you, seem obsessed with being right rather than hearing your partner and learning to do better in the future. If possible your wife should have given you a heads up, but everyone gets headaches and has bad days, it doesn’t excuse taking responsibility for how you act when you have one.
What exactly is your chore split, what do you do? What does your wife do?
I love the comments telling a 21-year-old who barely has life experience that she shouldn’t have moved in with an alcoholic. She had no idea he had a problem and is reaching out for advice, and some of y’all come back with “My advice is to get a DeLorean to fly back in time and try a do over.” Thanks, Doc, not helpful at all and pretty shortsighted to boot.
OP, now that you’re more aware of the scope of the problem, listen to the commenters providing valid, resourceful advice. You’re about to face some rocky roads ahead, but I wish you both the best.
Well it’s not like you’re hitler incarnate here, but it also would not have killed you to use your words like an adult. The anger is oozing off of you here, I wouldn’t be surprised if you gave off a very angry vibe without realizing it then, and it is rude to act that way to a guest. All you had to say was, “I wish that I could talk longer, but I feel ill with a headache and need to rest. Have a fun visit!”
Part of growing up is learning to grin and bear it through social pressures, and learning how to politely bow out when that’s impossible. ESH but why is it getting blown up still into a big thing? Did you double down and not admit that her point was valid, or did she not accept your apology and explanation? This shouldn’t be a big deal, but one or both of you, seem obsessed with being right rather than hearing your partner and learning to do better in the future. If possible your wife should have given you a heads up, but everyone gets headaches and has bad days, it doesn’t excuse taking responsibility for how you act when you have one.