From someone who has had a BIL creep on them, I can promise you is very likely that he's done things you haven't noticed and that Tim very likely has. It is an awful, terrible feeling to know that the person your beloved sibling has chosen is trying to involve you in betraying them and has a clear lack of character… and it's nearly impossible to say anything about it without sounding crazy.
Talk to Tim, but very gentle and make sure your language isn't accusatory.
Honestly, you wouldn't be crazy if you just broke off the engagement based on your gut feelings.
What else is he going to pressure you into doing? Making you take drugs won’t be the end of it.
People sometimes change. You changed, and now you’re not compatible with your current boyfriend. Break up with him and find someone who has the same opinion about drugs that you do – or who at least won’t try to guilt and pressure you into doing something that you don’t want to do.
Me thinks the lady is putting it all on Ben to take the heat off the fact that she doesn't want her husband ruining her shot with Ben
From someone who has had a BIL creep on them, I can promise you is very likely that he's done things you haven't noticed and that Tim very likely has. It is an awful, terrible feeling to know that the person your beloved sibling has chosen is trying to involve you in betraying them and has a clear lack of character… and it's nearly impossible to say anything about it without sounding crazy.
Talk to Tim, but very gentle and make sure your language isn't accusatory.
Honestly, you wouldn't be crazy if you just broke off the engagement based on your gut feelings.
he is gaslighting you and trying to trap you with a baby
run, op. RUN
you do not want to procreate with this man. he isn't fit to be a partner let alone to be a father
RUN!
What else is he going to pressure you into doing? Making you take drugs won’t be the end of it.
People sometimes change. You changed, and now you’re not compatible with your current boyfriend. Break up with him and find someone who has the same opinion about drugs that you do – or who at least won’t try to guilt and pressure you into doing something that you don’t want to do.